Ever notice that person in the room who isn’t being outrageous, but has an inner calm that everyone is feeding off of? An inner knowing that we all find irresistible and want a part of—either in a relationship or for ourselves? There are ways to access this magnetism and we all have different ways of finding it, but here are a few good tips to get started:
1. Enthusiasm. People are magnetized to people who are enthusiastic. It’s that child-like quality of getting so turned on by a subject, person, or idea you are trying to sell someone. They are moved by your enthusiasm. Part of this is unconscious in that they, as the receiver of the enthusiasm, get a shot of serotonin knowing you are enjoying yourself. We all love being part of something with God flowing through it! The word “En-theos” from Latin, literally means God-within. Check out Brian Johnson’s work with En*theos, and find out how you can show up more and more embodying God/Source/Nature/the Universe.
2. Listening with Attention and Affection. It’s not only important to be engaging when we are speaking or presenting, but also listening. When we really listen—with affection, without arguing, changing subjects, or thinking about what to say next—we are seeing into the speaker’s soul. Their thoughts become purer, and purer, leading to their best thinking, and they begin to create and expand. People are magnetized towards listeners, who help them arrive at their best thinking, and we, the listener feel amazing being around self-realized people who live their lives to the fullest.
3. Being Within Ourselves. Try meditating, for the next five minutes. But instead of just tracking the breath in and out of the nose, focus on the toes. Send each deep breath directly into the toes and dorsal part of the foot. Feel your soles on the ground. Are your feet cold or warm? Consciously work to send warm, energy to the feet. Continue this for a few days, and you will begin to feel yourself breathing deep into your belly—right into your core. You’ll begin to feel the very subtle edge (where you are speaking, singing and moving) that is WITHIN you, and the edge of where you are outside of yourself. This is when we say silly things, get raspy throats, and generally become inauthentic from our core values. I don’t want to be around that, and unconsciously none of us do. And while we’re speaking of feet…
4. Own Your Whole Body. Before starting my yoga practice, my legs were just a vehicle for my upper body. I was completely ungrounded, with my head always in the clouds (Vata Dosha). When I learned to connect with my lower half, I was able to work in handstand, headstand, and other positions that require deep inner strength. Accessing Mula and Uddiyana Bandha works as a great mediator between the torso and lower body. When we can stand firmly on our two feet and are connected as one whole unit who walks and talks with a unified body and mind. People once again sense this, and are drawn to us.