It’s not often that I read a book and Post-It flag nearly the whole damn thing. But when I closed Where’s My Sanity? Stories That Help for the final time, the dog-eared pages looked like a Tibetan prayer flag with hopes for my future waiting to be carried off into the winds of change.
A Different Way to Experience the World
I’ll admit, when I first started reading the Claudia Confidentially column on Gaiam TV, I was confused by her thoughts and psychoanalytic process.
So how do we, then, make positive, lasting change in our lives?
If you, like me, are at times plagued by negative forces in your life and are looking for positive change, this might be the one book for you that actually makes sense. Sure, you’ve read all the self-help books you can find, you’ve done all the guru stuff you’ve been told, but it won’t lead to sanity — only emotional experiences will. This is the thesis statement of the book Where’s My Sanity? Stories That Help by psychoanalyst Dr. Claudia Luiz.
Claudia teaches us that NO feeling is ever wrong — it’s just there. We must allow our feelings up and out; otherwise, they create vibrational density and our bodies hold onto them. (This is the reason why many people look to yoga, acupuncture, and massage as a means of letting go of all that bad juju.)
Through personal accounts from patients who openly admit they have their vices and insecurities, we begin to see ourselves in their stories.
What Creates a Shift
Claudia teaches us to be present with our suffering. Yeah, how’s that for uncomfortable? But when you can stand in the middle of whatever storm you’re going through instead of trying to escape it or mask it with something else, eventually something will give.
It’s when you can surrender that you will find a question. And, once you have a question, be able to start searching not just for a pill to make things better, but for an answer that will change you.
We also have to be able to speak our fears, but we have to be able to see them first. Through this book, Claudia helps people root them out and then destroy them. Parts of her approach are funny, too. I found myself laughing out loud when I read this line:
We all need people we can be edgy with when we are crazed. This is one of the best reasons to stay married: to have someone other than yourself to be edgy with.
One of the things I appreciate about Where’s My Sanity? is how real Claudia is with her readers. She’s right there with you, going, "Yeah, I have insecurities and annoyances, too. I hate my hair." She’s not afraid to take a seat on her own couch and dish to us some of her crap, too.
Chapter 8 is my favorite. Why? Because this is where Claudia, a feisty Italian just like me, isn’t afraid to show her own vulnerability and cuss when necessary. She’s the real deal; even psychotherapists have their own stuff to deal with.
A New Method for Change
So come, have a seat on Claudia’s couch and be willing to be vulnerable. For it is there, surrounded by only your thoughts and Claudia’s ears and expertise, will you tip over the edge into emotional freedom. Just try not to mess with Claudia’s therapist chair. She doesn’t like that.
Don’t be afraid to be a freak. If you can let yourself feel, it can take you to some of the most amazing places you’ll ever experience.