Thinking before speaking can eliminate embarrassment.
Thinking before speaking can eliminate embarrassment.
If I had to pick one quality that best predicts success (other than wanting to be successful) it would be the willingness to risk embarrassment.
There is a story of a certain college student in a poetry class who, when called upon to recite lines that he had written by assignment, refused. He was prepared to accept failure rather than the embarrassment of facing the class, inept as he felt he was in this field. The professor, it is reported, said to him, "Young man, it is important that you realize that you arc not a finished product. You are still in the process of creation." In fact, all of us are in the process of creation. "Progress," said Browning in "Paracelsus," "is the law of life. Man is not man as yet." But men do have a divine heritage and we are here for noble purposes. We have an infinitely important future potential if, if we learn. How is it going to happen? Will it be automatic? You who are married, did the ceremony create you or qualify you as properly equipped husbands and wives? Does the birth of a baby into the family qualify you as adequate parents? Does graduation signify that we are educated ?
The term ideal, herein is not used in the sense of an abstract, unattainable perfection; but rather it means a worthy goal that has promise of attainment through appropriate efforts. The gap between where you are and where you desire to be creates a mental and emotional conflict, "a holy discontent" - often called stress in today's world. Normally the first response to stress is to mentally and emotionally run over the outward indications of the conflict - anger, fear, disappointment, resentment, embarrassment, or other such negative feelings. In doing this one's mind is trying to fill the gap between his expectation of what he desires and what actually exists.
You can imagine my embarrassment when I killed the wrong guy.
Literature is my Utopia. Here I am not disenfranchised. No barrier of the senses shuts me out from the sweet, gracious discourses of my book friends. They talk to me without embarrassment or awkwardness.
No pains must be spared to wipe out all feeling of diffidence, embarrassment, or shame on the part of those receiving relief; [we] must be one great family of equals. The spiritual welfare of those on relief must receive especial care and be earnestly and prayerfully fostered. A system which gives relief for work or service will go far to reaching these ends.
But that intimacy of mutual embarrassment, in which each feels that the other is feeling something, having once existed, its effect is not to be done away with.
The rate at which a person can mature is directly proportional to the embarrassment he can tolerate.
Other relaxations are peculiar to certain times, places and stages of life, but the study of letters is the nourishment of our youth, and the joy of our old age. They throw an additional splendor on prosperity, and are the resource and consolation of adversity; they delight at home, and are no embarrassment abroad; in short, they are company to us at night, our fellow travelers on a journey, and attendants in our rural recesses.
I discovered early that the hardest thing to overcome is not a physical disability but the mental condition which it induces. The world, I found, has a way of taking a man pretty much at his own rating. If he permits his loss to make him embarrassed and apologetic, he will draw embarrassment from others. But if he gains his own respect, the respect of those around him comes easily.