Problems

It does indeed, as our 'problems' usually live in our minds & running will get us nowhere fast.

- when you face your demons in the deep dark forest, they tend to become your friends :-)

love, laughter & lightness.. tara <3

Facing problems is definately better sooner rather than later…but it takes a lot of courage to face them…and to face what is really inside of us…not all of our inner self is necessarily sweet and light but in order to face a problem completely you should be willing to accept yourself completely…and acknowledge the darkness and the light.

Great comments! I completely agree on both counts. It can be a daunting, yet amazing journey inward.

In acceptance and growth,
David

yeah you are all right .just face your problem and solve it but need courage to face so u Will remain cowered  .go face it now than never

What about when a “problem” (I'll substitute the word “situation”) involves another person who is unwilling to try to resolve things?  I've learned that pushing for a resolution or change didn't result in the resolution or change I was hoping for…though things do happen for a reason…I can only believe that where I am now can allow for new things to occur, instead of continuing to deal with the same issues of the past few years.

I agree with everyone, love the comments and participation. My perspective of “problems”, which I usually refer to as obstacles, is that they can be overcome. Oftentimes some say they have problems or will even go to the extent of a “problem child”. I like to take a more positive side. The words we use can be hurtful or helpful, not only to others but to ourselves. It is much easier to tackle an obstacle then think I may be stuck with a problem.  As for obstacles in general, the only way to handle one is to face it, embrace it, and realize you can let it go once it is solved. The result: you are a survivor of life, not a victim of circumstance.   

 Imagination is the most important thing that you posess. Problems are things that are created by a lack of imagination. Therefore the only way to solve a problem is to utilize you're imagination.

While I think it is great to face your problems sooner rather than later or never, I think it does wonders to step away from problems and gain a bit of perspective. Maybe there isn’t even a problem.

Life is full of necessary challenges that are best viewed simply as that, not something to be solved.

The “problem” we all face is in our minds, truly just another challenge in life,We all have a challenge at one time or another and need guidance from within;follow your heart and be mindfull of the answers that you find, accept the outcome and make it better where you can. Let the spirits be your guide on this matter. (Grey Wolf) 1838

So true, Timbo, I thank you.  I have been telling this other person involved that it is in his mind; the “problem” is due by his response to things.  Of course, you can tell a person something all you want, but , similar to what you wrote, sometimes one must find that from within before realizing or accepting that truth.

I feel I may be going through a similar situation.  Where the other person involved with the problem is unwiiling to accept that running is not the answer and that even though our relationship does have a few problem, and I am willing to accept my hand in that and am willing to make a whole hearted go at it they are unwilling to seek the help that they need to be able to give themselves fully in a relationship with anybody.  I try to explain that she can run but she cant hide because the sadness that haunts her comes from within.

I really agree with this, but it's so much easier said than done… so many factors can influence situations and make for complicated turns in the course of events.  Sometimes I wish following your heart didn't lead to such dire consequences…

It's a very true and a very good point. Some times though, your problems may involve some one else who does not want to listen to you. It's those times that you have to keep your chin up, ignore your current problem, and look for something positive soem where else.

But I'm glad to hear that others out there realize that running away from issues doesn't solve anything. =]

Right-O big Daddy….no matter where you run to…you will always be there. You must go inside to find your way out. Great post.

You all have beautiful things to say.  It is not “problems” or “issues” that we need to face- it is life.  Once you face and embrace life you can't go wrong.

I agree with Hiko actually all the comments make sense. It's hard to follow your heart and go thru with things when you are facing dire consequances.  It's hard when you know your actions will hurt someone else and you disagree with what solution to take. I've got to say I'd rather solve everything upfront and sooner then let it fester and become a bigger mess.

Yes, it is very true! Facing your problems sooner than later is the better way to go. However, sometimes, you need to let your head clear up or cool off a little. If you were to go and face your problem right on the spot you might do or say things that you later regret. You want to make sure that when you look back on the choices you made you don't regret or wish you had thought out things better. Because if you just go and act on impulse to face your problems without taking into account past experiences then you may have not learn anything.

Mariela, you are wise and well tought. Thank your parents so that they may know that they have raised you well… Timbo (Grey Wolf)

I really like that thought. I think it's something that I generally believe, but it's something I also need to be reminded of occasionally

I have a question about “problems”, obstacles, stepping stones. What if you have chonic illness (I am bi-polar- I am on good medication, see my doctors, and go to therapy) that will never go away in your life time? What if praying, laughing, screaming isn't enough to get “through” the wee hours of the morning? Let me know if anyone has any ideas.

Merrily-trying to keep the faith.

Wow that's completly different completly harder.  I think you have to face those kind of problems dead on say this is going to affect my life to a point but I can accept it and find good and live even though it exists.  Sometimes the problems never go away elsewhere to and you have to accept what is(unless you know a good person to pray over you and make it leave lol)  I'm truly sorry for your battle and I don't think it honestly is a problem.  It's something to work thru around and maybe use lol if possible.  Sometimes just accepting what is helps enough to get thru it. Not outright poor me thinking but more this is what is and here's how I can live my life around it, here's where I can succeed and I can feel like I'm doing something about it. Best of luck and love to you.  I pray your fight gets easier.

Thank you sooo much Naomi!! That encourages me. I will try your advice and thank you soo much for your prayers. I like your way of looking at my “trial”, I do believe that good can come out it, it is just hard when I am in a negative mood. You are helping me see the positive. With the Lord's help all is possible.


            Thank you and God Bless!

                    Merrily

I’m glad i helped and I hope the advice works, it has for me anyway. Somethings we can’t change but we can always change how we perceive and live with it. Anyway glad I helped somewhat some days it helps to talk to get some new perspective on it and realize you aren’t alone.

I’m glad I helped a little I hope and pray it gets easier. Some days it’s easier when you have someone to talk to it helps to create a new perspective and a new way of perceiving it. Which is the only thing some days we can change.

God bless and help you
Naomi

Everyone has their own way of dealing with problems. Whose to say whats the right way is? What is right for me may not be right for you! Some of have a support system, but many of us don't. Some “problems ” are so intense you need to step back, take some time to come up with a plan to tackle it. The solution is not always simple. Confronting a problem when your not ready could be devastating!