Michael Beckwith, the author of Spiritual Liberation says, “A bad day for the ego is a good day for the soul.” Failure doesn’t determine our successes and is really healthy in our growth. We all know this, but how do you evolve from your mistakes?
Passion is What Matters What’s important in succeeding in anything, is pursuing (or practicing) what we are passionate about and failing along the way. When we fear failure, the stakes are too high, and what we are doing isn’t our true calling. If we are passionate about growing ourselves, an idea, or a relationship, we dig in and get dirty in order to succeed. Think about hula hooping. Do you look for instructions before moving your hips? Nope. You just start swirling your hips. You stay so engrossed in the activity that failure is just a fun part of the process, because you get to keep playing until you succeed.
Playing/Curiosity/Exploration/Creativity Seth Godin said something to the tune of: “When you fail, you get to keep playing. And the longer you get to play, sooner or later you will succeed! And you don’t care because you are having fun.” Look at activities like your asana or meditation practice, drawing, journaling, or hula hooping, where mistakes happen frequently, and it’s cool. How can you apply those thought processes to what you get paid to do?
Take Initiative Stop waiting for others to tell you what to do or create, at home or on the job. At some point in school, we are told to write a five-page paper, double-spaced. We assume that we can do this after school, and continue to thrive. Careers and Callings don’t work like that. There is no A+ for doing things exactly the way we’re told to. Is there a better way to do it? Then ask and do it!
The Nervous System Dina Bandu from The Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, talks about mistakes, saying that we are physiologically made to move towards homeostasis, but must fight that. Homeostasis is boring. We must fight that in order to grow and expand. Bandu says, that when we add energy to a system, turbulence/damage increase, until the system integrates the energy. This brings us back to homeostasis, with the added strength from the adaptation. It's the same with building muscle - it must be broken down to grow it stronger. Who decided that the brain was any different? Find challenges and grow! When we consciously practice yoga, we create awareness and realize our mistakes, and shortcomings. Through continued practice, we find self-compassion, seeing our innate divinity, and completeness. This helps us process more energy, and raises our consciousness, strengthening our nervous system to take on more energy. Tal Ben-Shahar says in his book, The Pursuit of Perfect, “Learn to fail, or fail to learn.” On to you. How can you integrate mistakes into your life a little more today? Is there a creative project you need to explore? A relationship? Growth occurs as we explore our edges and celebrate the strength gained as we risk a little failure! Go deeper in your journey of redefining what it means to be successful. Check out our Success 3.0 Summit, and watch talks from the biggest thought leaders of our time.