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The dark night of the soul is a profoundly transformative experience that many people go through at some point in their spiritual journey. It is an intense process of inner crisis, where everything known seems to lose meaning and a genuine search for truth and purpose begins. In this article we explore what it means to go through this stage, how to identify it and what practices can help you to go through it with greater awareness and clarity.

Table of Contents

• What Is the Dark Night of the Soul?
• Signs That You Are Going Through a Dark Night of the Soul
• Differences Between the Dark Night of the Soul and Depression
• Stages of the Dark Night of the Soul
  • Ego Rupture and Loss of Meaning
  • Existential Emptiness and Inner Loneliness
  • Surrender, Acceptance and Spiritual Rebirth
• Spiritual Practices to Pass Through the Dark Night of the Soul
• Spiritual Awakening After the Dark Night of the Soul
• The Dark Night of the Soul in the Teachings of Carl Jung

What Is the Dark Night of the Soul?

The dark night of the soul is a critical stage of spiritual awakening characterized by deep inner turmoil, loss of meaning and confrontation with the most hidden aspects of the self. It often arises after painful events or moments of crisis that shake internal structures and force a rethinking of the direction of life. It is not a psychological disorder, but a spiritual crisis that pushes the individual to detach from previous identities and explore his or her true purpose.

During this phase, there is an apparent disconnection from the outside world and a confrontation with repressed emotions, unhealed wounds and limiting patterns. This experience can be overwhelming, but it is precisely this crumbling that allows for a more authentic reconstruction. Far from being a sign of failure, it is an invitation to let go of what no longer serves to make way for a more integrated version of oneself.

In the series Sacred Power, available on Gaia, Caroline Myss explores this process in depth in the episode “The Dark Night of the Soul”. Through her guidance, you will learn to identify this stage as an essential part of spiritual development, differentiating it from a common emotional crisis, and discover how to transform it into an opportunity for inner growth.

Signs That You Are Going Through a Dark Night of the Soul

Going through a dark night of the soul can seem confusing at first, especially because its symptoms are often mistaken for common emotional or psychological states. However, there are clear signs that indicate a deep spiritual transformation. Here are some of the most common ones:

• Loss of purpose: You feel that nothing that used to motivate you makes sense and you struggle to find direction. The goals that used to drive you no longer represent you.
• Spiritual disconnection: You are overcome with the feeling that you are disconnected from the divine, the universe or any form of spirituality that used to sustain you.
• Constant introspection: You spend a lot of time questioning your beliefs, your personal history and the pillars on which you built your identity.
• Intense and contradictory emotions: You experience deep sadness, anxiety, anger or despair without a clear cause. These emotions seem to arise from a very internal place.
• Voluntary isolation: You prefer to be alone and avoid social contact. Solitude becomes necessary to process what you are experiencing.
• Desire to free yourself from old versions of yourself: There is an urge to let go of roles, masks or expectations that no longer align with who you really are.
• Attraction to the spiritual or mystical: Despite suffering, you feel a growing need to find answers in spiritual teachings, books, therapies or introspective practices.

Differences Between the Dark Night of the Soul and Depression

Although they share certain emotional symptoms, such as deep sadness or inner emptiness, dark night of the soul and depression are not the same. Depression is a clinical condition that may require medical or therapeutic treatment, while the dark night of the soul is a spiritual crisis that acts as a catalyst for deep inner transformation. In depression, there is a sense of stagnation; in the dark night, the pain has an evolutionary meaning, although it may not be evident at first.

During a depression, vital energy tends to decrease drastically, and it is common to feel apathy, total disconnection from the environment and lack of motivation even for basic tasks. On the other hand, those going through a dark night of the soul are often immersed in an existential quest: suffering is accompanied by deep questions about purpose, truth and the meaning of life. Emotional turmoil coexists with a longing for spiritual awakening.

Another key aspect is that depression is usually a closed state, where the person feels trapped, with no way out and no clear direction. The dark night of the soul, on the other hand, although painful, is a dynamic process that pushes toward transformation. As one goes through it, glimmers of clarity, inner realizations and a new connection to the essential begin to emerge.

Stages of the Dark Night of the Soul

The dark night of the soul does not occur suddenly or evenly; it unfolds in distinct stages that reflect the soul’s inner movement toward a new consciousness. It usually begins with an ego-break, followed by a phase of deep emptiness and loneliness, and culminates in surrender, acceptance and a spiritual rebirth that brings with it greater authenticity, connection and inner clarity.

• Ego Rupture and Loss of Meaning

The first stage is usually marked by a crisis that dismantles the personal structures with which the ego identified: roles, achievements, beliefs or relationships. What once gave meaning no longer holds, and the sense of disorientation can be overwhelming. This destabilization is not accidental: it is the way in which the soul begins to free itself from constructs that are no longer coherent with its deepest truth.

At this point, many people feel that they “hit bottom” because life as they knew it is no longer valuable. Certainties fade away and an internal process is triggered that invites a letting go of control. Although painful, this break is necessary to allow an identity to emerge that is more aligned with the soul’s purpose, rather than with external expectations or previous conditioning.

• Existential Emptiness and Inner Loneliness

After the rupture, a deep inner emptiness is experienced. This emptiness is not simply the absence of something, but a pause that interrupts the usual noise of the external world. Life feels directionless and old desires lose strength, giving way to a forced but fertile introspection. The soul enters silence, and that silence can seem unbearable if its purpose is not understood.

Loneliness becomes a constant companion, even when surrounded by other people. It is a loneliness that has nothing to do with social isolation, but with the disconnection from the superficial identity. Through this emotional retreat, an inner purification begins, where the soul is reunited with its essence and learns to sustain itself without depending on external validations.

• Surrender, Acceptance and Spiritual Rebirth

The final stage of the dark night of the soul begins when the person stops resisting the process and surrenders completely to what he or she is experiencing. This surrender is not resignation, but a sincere openness to transformation. Acceptance allows one to see suffering in a different light: no longer as punishment, but as part of the path to a deeper consciousness.

From this surrender, a spiritual rebirth emerges. A new sensitivity is awakened, a more genuine connection with life, and a clearer understanding of who one really is. This transformation does not eliminate the pain experienced, but integrates it as part of a greater wisdom. What once seemed like a crisis with no way out is revealed as an opportunity to begin again, from a truer place.

Spiritual Practices to Pass Through the Dark Night of the Soul

During the dark night of the soul, spiritual practices not only provide emotional containment, but also act as guides to understand the purpose behind the pain. Through concrete tools, it is possible to access states of greater clarity, sustain introspection and strengthen the connection with the spiritual dimension of the process.

• Meditation and contemplation: These practices help quiet the mind and observe thoughts without identifying with them. Through conscious silence, an inner presence is cultivated that brings stability in the midst of emotional chaos.
• Akashic Records: Allows access to information about the soul’s lessons and the deeper causes behind the current process. The information found in these records provides a clearer understanding of the spiritual purpose behind what is being experienced.
• Writing and silence: Keeping a journal allows for the release of repressed thoughts and clarification of emotions. Combined with spaces of voluntary silence, it enhances the connection with the inner voice and promotes deep self-exploration.
• Connection with nature: Being in contact with natural environments favors energetic and mental balance. Nature acts as a mirror and support during moments of greater inner disconnection.
• Retreats and sacred spaces: Getting away temporarily from the daily environment allows us to observe life with a greater perspective. These spaces foster a reconnection with the essential and with practices that nourish the soul.

Spiritual Awakening After the Dark Night of the Soul

Overcoming the dark night of the soul marks a before and after in the spiritual experience. What emerges after this journey is not an idealized version of the person, but a more authentic identity, free of conditioning. Awakening is not about feeling happy all the time, but about living with greater awareness, coherence and connection with the transcendent.

This inner rebirth is often accompanied by a deep gratitude for life, a heightened sensitivity to the subtle and an expanded compassion for oneself and others. Perceptions of time, relationships and life purposes change: the essential is prioritized and that which no longer makes sense from the soul is released.

Many people, after going through this transformation, experience a renewal of their faith, an openness to new forms of spirituality and a need to share their experience in order to accompany others. The awakening that follows the dark night is not a final destination, but the beginning of a life more aligned with the inner truth.

The Dark Night of the Soul in the Teachings of Carl Jung

Carl Jung, a pioneer of depth psychology, recognized the dark night of the soul as an inevitable stage on the path to individuation. For Jung, the human soul must confront and reconcile with its “shadow“-the repressed or denied aspects of the self-in order to achieve true spiritual and psychological maturity. This confrontation can generate great suffering, but it is also the gateway to a more integral consciousness.

Jung understood that inner darkness should not be avoided, but integrated. He affirmed that “there is no awakening of consciousness without pain”, and considered that existential crises were opportunities for the unconscious to bring transforming messages. In this sense, the dark night of the soul is not a collapse, but an archetypal process of disintegration and reconstruction of the self.

The Jungian legacy offers valuable tools to go through this period, such as dream work, active imagination and the observation of personal archetypes. Together, these practices allow us to dialogue with the unconscious, recognize repressed contents and move towards a more complete and authentic version of ourselves.