What it Means to Know Yourself
I stood in my living room before a full length mirror and – for a good length of time – watched myself eat vegan cheddar popcorn straight out of the bag.
As I stood there contemplating my appearance – and my existence – while munching on handful after handful of starchy goodness, I noticed: Something was different.
Over the course of my 28 years, I have on many occasions curiously observed myself in mirrors and camera displays. I’ve partaken in my fair share of self-timer photo shoots, diligently choosing my Instagram filters for the most flattering polish. I have deleted and re-taken “candid” shot after “candid” shot. In short, my physical appearance and I are well acquainted.
But this time there was something missing. Something that felt very familiar and suddenly very absent. And that something was scrutiny.
I am void of scrutiny
It feels a little odd, though not at all unpleasant. How could it? In that moment I was suddenly at peace with – everything. My weight. The dark circles beneath my eyes. My age. Even the sharpness of my nasal bone, which can look anywhere from dainty to profuse depending on the angle and one’s vantage point. And as I stood and munched and munched and stood – I knew full well why I so suddenly accepted myself without resistance.
You see, in the last year, I met myself. I ventured into an exercise of self recognition. I began dissecting and dissolving many of the things I knew made me be ME, and I did it by constantly asking:
“What does my emotional reaction (to XYZ) say about me?” and “Why am I having this reaction?”
The ‘I’ we tend to identify with is simply the accumulation of all the experiences we’ve ever had, which in turn have each triggered a different set of emotional responses – thus making us who we (think) we are by systematically labeling, defining, compartmentalizing, and ultimately separating ourselves from the outside world. But the truth is all of those unavoidable events in our history – while they all had divine purpose and were in fact crucial for our personal growth in the moment we experienced them – are not truly US. They are experiences – meant to be experienced and then let go of completely. But because truly experiencing anything new requires a willingness to face the dreaded unknown, we instead often recoil, following the impulse to instead protect ourselves from that which may hurt us. And because of this automatic defense mechanism, remnants of the unfinished experience cling on somewhere deep inside our subconscious; it can wreak havoc on our daily lives, our self image, our ability to experience love, joy, fear, pain – everything.
Life Sucks and then you die. Or not?
If you find yourself anxious, unhappy, or fearful, don’t assume that’s just the way things are and surrender to it. You are the author of your thoughts – which in turn are the authors of your emotions. If you truly want to know yourself and understand why you are the way you are, you must dig through every experience and find the original. The one that triggered them all.
Let me give you a personal example using a classic: shame.
I recently completed a creative project that I did not feel properly represented my artistic abilities and therefore caused me to be ‘ashamed’ of the end result. Any time I showed it to anyone, I felt a strong surge of anxiety which was inevitably followed by me rattling off a list of excuses as to why it had turned out sub par. I knew I had to make peace with it if I wanted to gain anything from the experience. So I decided to get to the bottom of it.
The morning of a film festival where this particular project was going to be shown, I meditated with the intention of finding out where my searing shame originated from. And sure enough – I was led to a very distinct childhood memory. Because I have turned meditation into a habit (meaning I no longer question whether to do it or not, I just do it), I was able to locate the trigger.
Pink Pony Says Thank You
When I was 10 years old I felt isolated and unwanted in a new school. One day, (probably because the parents insisted), I was invited to a classmate’s slumber party. The day afterward I was so overwhelmed with gratitude for having been included that I handmade a card on which I wrote Pink Pony Says Thank You. It depicted, of course, a crudely drawn pink pony. Not long after presenting the 10-year-old host with my token of appreciation, the card was passed around the 5th grade classroom and ruthlessly mocked. Humiliated, I learned three lessons that day which I have carried with me and honored ever since:
- Just because you made it and just because you like it doesn’t mean anyone else will (cause for massive self-trust issues).
- Never show anyone anything you’ve created unless you’re willing to be ridiculed (cause for pessimistic outlook on future outcomes as a means to protect oneself from disappointment).
- It’s better not to care (cause for stifled experience/expression of appreciation).
Now, you can see how these deep-rooted belief systems could prove problematic, if not detrimental, when you are – like I am – pursuing a career in the arts.
And this is just one tiny, single example of thousands of instances in which a painful past experience got “stuck” in me – and you, and everyone – and is powerfully affecting the way we live our lives.
Reprogram Your Mind
The beauty of it all is that the recognition of this fact is the first step to changing the game. You don’t have to be a slave to your past. You can actively search and destroy those memories and essentially re-program yourself with new beliefs that will serve you better.
When I realized that this one experience was at the root of my shame issues surrounding my work, it was easy to see that forgiving myself was all I had to do to release it. The 10-year-old version of me that still unknowingly hated herself for having been so dumb to make a card that says Pink Pony Says Thank You could now understand – from the 28-year-old’s perspective – that I had done nothing wrong. In fact, my gesture was one fueled by love, kindness, and gratitude. Once I could clearly see that, I was able to forgive myself and be done with it. Tears streamed down my cheeks as I felt a tremendous weight lift off my shoulders – a weight I had carried around with me for so many years without ever questioning its validity.
And we all do that. We all carry the weight of our past experiences with us – completely unaware that the negative feelings of trapped emotion we feel are optional. We can choose to release them and be free once and for all. It’s what therapy accomplishes, only you don’t need a therapist to do it. All you need is:
- A willingness to do the work and find your triggers.
- The courage to want to know.
- The ability to see the past event objectively and let it go.
That is why I could stand and stare at my reflection and – for the first time – feel nothing but peace. Because for the last year, I have immersed myself in the challenge of getting to know myself. With the help of books like The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer and Ask and it is Given by Abraham Hicks, I was able to start recognizing the true nature of my Self and begin to make peace with it.
It has been a long journey, and it is far from over. But already life has become richer and sweeter than I ever imaged. So I invite you to join me – because inner peace is a reality for all of us.
We simply have to choose it.
About the Author
10 Examples of Life Purpose That Will Help You Find Yours
Have you ever wondered what your purpose in life is? Answering this question can provide us with a profound sense of direction and personal satisfaction. In this article we explore several examples of life purposes that may inspire you to find yours and live a fuller, more meaningful life.
Table of Contents
- What Is the Purpose of Life?
- 10 Examples of Life Purpose
- Educating and Sharing Knowledge
- Promoting Health and Wellness
- Encouraging Spirituality and Inner Connection
- Creating a Loving and United Family
- Innovating in Science and Technology
- Protecting the Environment
- Supporting Animals and Wildlife
- Connecting People With Nature
- Developing Artistic Skills
- Promoting Inclusion and Diversity
- Is the Life Purpose Related to a Work Activity?
- How to Find My Life Purpose?
What Is the Purpose of Life?
Life purpose is a deep sense of direction that guides us throughout our existence, helping us to make decisions and set priorities. This purpose provides clarity and allows us to align our actions with our deepest values and passions. Discovering it is a process that goes beyond simple intellectual reflection, involving an intimate connection with our inner self.
For many people, life purpose is intrinsically linked to their natural gifts and talents. These can range from art and music to science and technology. Recognizing and developing these gifts opens doors to opportunities that allow us to contribute meaningfully to society, while experiencing deep personal satisfaction.
Another essential aspect of life purpose is the positive impact we can have on others. Often, finding our purpose involves serving others and improving the lives of those around us. This can manifest itself in a variety of ways, such as educating, caring for the health of others, protecting the environment or supporting disadvantaged communities. By living in alignment with our purpose, we not only enrich our own lives, but also contribute to the well-being and development of society as a whole.
In the series Transcendence, available on Gaia, one episode is dedicated to exploring this topic in depth and invites us to reflect on the different stages of life and how each one offers unique opportunities to discover and rediscover our purpose, fostering a continuous journey of self-awareness and growth.
10 Examples of Life Purpose
Finding your purpose may seem like a challenging task, but drawing inspiration from the purposes of others can be a great place to start. Here are ten examples of life purposes that can help you find yours and live a life full of meaning and direction.
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Educating and Sharing Knowledge
Dedicating your life to education and sharing knowledge can be an incredible source of satisfaction. Educators have the power to positively influence the lives of their students, helping them develop skills, acquire knowledge and discover their own talents. This purpose not only benefits those who receive education, but also contributes to the progress of society as a whole.
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Promoting Health and Wellness
Working in the field of health and wellness is a profound way to positively impact others. Professionals such as physicians, therapists, personal trainers and nutritionists dedicate their time to improving people’s physical and mental health, making a significant impact on their lives and the community at large.
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Encouraging Spirituality and Inner Connection
Guiding others on their spiritual journey is an enriching life purpose. Helping people find peace and harmony within themselves, through meditation, spiritual counseling or religious direction, offers tools and support for spiritual growth and self-knowledge.
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Creating a Loving and United Family
Creating and maintaining a loving and united family is a purpose that contributes greatly to the well-being and happiness of its members. This purpose focuses on building relationships based on love, respect and mutual support. Parents, grandparents and other family members who promote a healthy and loving home environment positively impact the lives of their loved ones.
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Innovating in Science and Technology
Innovation in science and technology can transform lives and improve our understanding of the world. Scientists and engineers are dedicated to researching and developing new ideas, products and solutions, opening up new possibilities and solving complex problems that affect humanity.
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Protecting the Environment
Protecting the environment is a noble and necessary purpose today. Activities such as biodiversity conservation, combating climate change and promoting sustainable practices are essential. Environmentalists and activists work to preserve our planet for future generations by raising awareness and advocating actions that promote sustainability.
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Supporting Animals and Wildlife
Those who feel a deep connection to animals may find their purpose in supporting them. Whether through rescuing and rehabilitating animals, advocating for their rights or preserving their habitats, veterinarians and activists strive to ensure animal welfare and protect endangered species.
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Connecting People With Nature
Guiding people in outdoor activities and educating about the importance of nature can bring joy and well-being to individuals and communities. Environmental educators and nature guides work to cultivate a healthy relationship between humans and the natural environment, promoting a greater appreciation and respect for the natural world.
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Developing Artistic Skills
The development and expression of artistic skills can enrich both the creator and his or her audience. Artists, musicians and writers express their emotions and visions through their work, inspiring and moving others. This purpose allows for self-expression and personal growth, contributing to the cultural heritage and beauty of the world.
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Promoting Inclusion and Diversity
Working to build a more just and equitable society is a meaningful purpose. Advocating equal opportunity and respect for all people, regardless of their differences, is essential. Activists and community leaders strive to break down barriers and create environments where all voices are heard and valued, promoting social cohesion and justice.
Is the Life Purpose Related to a Work Activity?
Life purpose does not necessarily have to be linked to a work activity. Many people find their purpose in aspects of life that are not related to their work. For example, devoting time to volunteer activities, such as helping disadvantaged communities or participating in social justice projects, can provide a deep sense of purpose and satisfaction without being associated with a paid occupation.
Life purpose is an expression of our essence and our deepest values, and can manifest itself in various areas of our lives. Some people discover their purpose in their dedication to hobbies and talents, such as art, music or sports, which allow them to express their creativity and contribute to the well-being of others in a non-work-related way. Others find their purpose in improving their personal relationships, cultivating empathy and compassion in their immediate environment.
Finally, purpose can also focus on personal and spiritual growth. Practicing meditation, working on personal development, and cultivating meaningful relationships are examples of how one can live one’s purpose without it being directly related to a professional career. In the end, the most important thing is to find what gives us a sense of fulfillment and happiness, regardless of whether or not it is linked to a work activity.
How to Find My Life Purpose?
Finding purpose in life is a personal process that unfolds uniquely for each individual. There is no single path or immediate answer. It is an inner journey that requires honesty, introspection, and connection with what truly resonates with you. Listening to your intuition and allowing yourself to feel what moves you from within is the first step toward a meaningful life.
On this path, it can be helpful to pay attention to the signs and synchronicities that appear in your day-to-day life. Sometimes, the universe communicates through small details, unexpected encounters, or moments of clarity that seem to align with your deepest concerns. Being present and receptive to these messages can provide subtle yet powerful guidance.
Another way forward is by observing the activities that give you energy, joy, or a sense of fulfillment. What you do with enthusiasm and without effort is often aligned with your life mission. Exploring different experiences, learning new things, and allowing yourself to change direction are also valid ways to refine your purpose over time.
Remember that finding your purpose is not a fixed goal, but an evolving process. As you change, grow, and get to know yourself better, your purpose may transform. The essential thing is to stay in tune with yourself, cultivate your authenticity, and keep moving forward with intention and awareness.
