3 Ways Mindfulness Can Help with Negative Emotions

3 Ways Mindfulness Can Help with Negative Emotions

“What’s wrong with me?” is a question most of us tend to ask when we experience negative emotions. When we ask ourselves this question, we are perceiving our negative emotions as something “bad” or “wrong.” This perception prevents us from using negative emotions in a positive way; in a way that serves our personal growth. Being negative about negative emotions is my definition of suffering.

The rise of negative emotions in ourselves can be compared to a traffic light turning red: it is a message to us that we need to stop. If we believe that a red light in traffic is something “bad,” it means that we don’t fully understand and appreciate its usefulness. Just imagine the chaos that would result if we were all to choose to ignore the red light’s simple message to us.

In the same way, positive emotions can be compared to a traffic light turning green: it is a message that we need to keep moving on. It would lead to disaster if, alternatively we were to hit the brakes whenever we saw the traffic light turn green.

Instead of shooting the messenger (our negative emotions), I suggest practicing the following three steps when experiencing negativity:

1. Awareness: Become mindful of the present moment.

The foundation of yoga is awareness. Whatever it is that we are doing, if we are not doing it with awareness it is not true yoga. Awareness, in the context of experiencing negative emotions, means observing that we are experiencing negativity without getting dragged along by it. Emotions are a powerful force that can sweep us away, and if the emotions we are experiencing are stronger than our current ability to return to the present moment, we can practice these three steps at a later time when the mind has become calmer. We practice mindfulness by bringing back the memory of the event that triggered our negative emotion. By practicing at a later time, we can start to train ourselves to be mindful when experiencing strong emotions.

2. Contemplation: Coming to an understanding of the source of our negative emotions.

Contemplation means engaging in a pleasant self-dialogue. When I say this, I literally mean that we will need to have a conversation with ourselves. In this dialogue, we will assume the role of somebody who is listening to a friend in need. We ask questions when we don’t understand that friend; we don’t assume the role of somebody who is ready to give advice and judgments.

There are two important questions we should ask ourselves in this dialogue, they are: “what is it that I really need?” and “how can I give myself what I really need?” When we ask these questions to ourselves, we need to remember that yoga is the practice of non-attachment. One meaning of “non-attachment” is to be independent of anything or anyone outside of us for our happiness and fulfillment. If, for example, we hear as an answer to the first question “I need my boss to show me some respect and acknowledge my work,” it means that we are dependent on our boss for “respect” and “acknowledgment.” Instead, try saying “I need respect and acknowledgment,” and then, in answer to the second question, ask yourself: “how can I give myself the respect and acknowledgment I need?” The answer to such a question will come from within.

3. Practice: Readjusting our mind, actions and speech to the insights gained in the previous steps.

Practice means following the insights that we have gained through our contemplation. Not following these insights is like having a cookbook but never actually cooking any recipe from it. The recipe book soon only becomes a burden.

These three steps have been, and still are, helping me to gain a deeper understanding of myself. It is my hope that they can do the same for you.



Five Superpowers You Can Harness Through Meditation

Five Superpowers You Can Harness Through Meditation

Meditation imbues practitioners with superpowers. If you want to change gracefully, elevate through joy, access divine flow and cultivate health, then meditation may be your perfect prescription. Meditation actually changes your brain: add a meditation practice to your daily routine and cultivate the following powers.

1. Power of Manifestation

According to Joe Dispenza in Your Brain on Meditation, “if you want peace in the world… you have to demonstrate peace everywhere in your life.” Humans have an average of 60,000-70,000 thoughts per day: Dispenza concludes that, because most of those thoughts are the same, and thoughts precede words, action, and choice, people end up stuck. The subjective mind produces an objective effect. Meditation offers an opportunity to change your life, from the source – your thoughts – and manifest your dreams.

2. Power of Joy

Change in the world and life is inevitable: you can experience a change in a state of suffering or state of joy. In this sense, joy refers to a state of bliss, calm, and connection to the divine. A belief in divine intelligence. Meditation provides an opportunity to choose joy, not in spite of but in union with what the outside world offers. Through meditation, you can move from a survival consciousness to mindfulness. According to Dispenza, “you don’t need the cause-and-effect model to send gratitude… your body does not know the difference.” In other words, you don’t need something material or external to experience joy; a perpetual state of gratitude is enough.

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