Alan Cohen, author of Happily Even After, discusses relationships and how we can love our leaver. He says that we need to train ourselves that there is no victim and victimizer. We each do many things that make break-ups happen. We all have our choices and we need to grow beyond those choices. There can and should be peace and healing after relationships because if we don’t we are doomed to repeat them. We must use our heart to learn or else we will follow in the same footsteps.