Letting Go of Ego
I’m having trouble “awakening” to the present moment with my meditation and letting go of ego. I am plagued by anxiety and can’t just let go of it, even though I know that it is useless and unnecessary. Do you know why I can’t let go of this anxiety, or what I can do to be more at peace?
Many people forget that Eckhart Tolle awakened to his enlightened state the moment he realized he didn’t want to live. He was about to kill himself when he experienced his awakening, and the rest is history.
What this means is that for him to achieve presence with what he was feeling, he had to know what that was.
Often, there are unspoken feelings, sensations, and dynamics that we have not put our finger on. When you don’t yet know exactly what it is you’re feeling, you can’t always achieve presence with it.
Now, anxiety, psychologically speaking, is what’s known as a “secondary emotion.” That means we feel it in response to other, more primary emotions. Maybe sexual. Maybe aggressive. We don’t always know what that primary emotion is. That’s why we have anxiety.
I can’t tell you how many times I have helped people to discover their primary thoughts and feelings, only to witness their anxiety vanish.
And that’s when you can achieve presence with what you feel: when you know it.
The way to discover the thoughts and emotions that you are not knowing and experiencing in your conscious awareness is to allow your mind to wander, on a yoga mat, therapist’s office, or on a written page. Eventually ‒ and especially if you can be helped to accept your emotions ‒ you will land on thoughts and feelings that will feel like “aha” moments, things you did not realize or that may even feel like complete revelations. And when that happens, you will feel at peace.
You can’t attain sanity by just trying harder, exercising a positive outlook, letting go, forgiving or meditating. What you need for sanity, when reason fails, are emotional experiences. Not ideas. Experiences.
– Claudia Luiz, PsychD in Where’s My Sanity? Stories That Help
We are here to evolve, and enlightenment is not something you can turn on like a switch in your brain. It is something that requires continued meditation, continued deep knowledge of your “pain body” and continued practice in observing the ego. Don’t get discouraged – I admire you greatly for seeking answers to reconciling what is happening within you to what you recognize outside of yourself.
How to Manifest a Sacred Relationship
How to Manifest a Sacred Relationship
By: Marcus and Sheila Gillette | July 7th, 2018
The following interview was facilitated by Marcus Gillette and channeled by Sheila Gillette. Sheila acts as a medium for the THEO group, 12 archangelic beings, speaking in one voice, here to be mentors and teachers to humanity. Speaking directly through Sheila, THEO is here to guide humanity during this unprecedented shift to a higher state of consciousness.
Marcus: Thank you, THEO. It’s great to have you with us today. What does sacred relationship mean to you?
THEO: It is that fulfillment of sacredness within – that recognition of the divinity that you are, the beauty, the uniqueness of your individuality that which is the light of your soul. It is that sacred aspect of your being… that soul that is connected to God… the God-self.
M: Share with us the importance of the relationship unto the self?
T: As one recognizes that divinity, that uniqueness of the being, then that is what is radiated out into the world from a peaceful place (not an angst, not that projection of fears and angers) that which is the resonance of the wholeness within; meaning, that there has been a satisfaction on all aspects of one’s soul to allow unconditional loving presence.
M: Let’s go a little deeper on manifesting a romantic relationship.
T: Romantic relationships can be attracted from very many ways, and most often there is in romance the attraction first that is a lustful one or an energetic connectivity that allows you to recognize one. There is a resonance. It is much like your auric field combining another. There is a vibration that then sparks a lustfulness that leads to romance, but also that which is romantic has to do with your interactions and your sensitivities to another and that awareness with them and with yourself.
You think alike, and you are alike in many ways, for like attracts like. So, if you are in a relationship that you are viewing something that you feel inappropriate, what inside of you is being mirrored to you? There are many facets to romance; but, first off, it is that magnetism, that hormone-pheromone expression and experience, and then underneath that is the recognition of the soulful connectivity.