Couples Meditation For A More Intimate Bond With Your Partner
Couples meditation or partners meditation is a fantastic way to get closer to your significant other on a more intimate level. Similar to couples therapy, it can work to fine tune the communication between two partners.
We already know meditation has positive impacts on our individual stress levels, attention span, our ability to feel compassion, mental health, mindfulness, and our physical bodies. But by practicing mindful meditation on a regular basis with your significant other, you’ll also be able to reap those benefits in regards to your relationship. This practice is popular as a conflict-resolution method and for identifying toxic factors in your relationship. It allows couples to explore new ways to solve problems, create communication guidelines, and make reasonable compromises.
However, it doesn’t necessarily need to be practiced only during tough times. Meditation works to forge new paths of communication to establish a team allegiance, or strengthen the one you’ve already established. By adding it to your routine, you will be reminded of the bigger picture, feel more level-headed, and form a more spiritual connection with your partner.
Meditation for Couples Removes Negativity And Distractions
There’s no doubt relationships can get bogged down from the day-to-day stresses of life. Most of us are guilty of taking bad days out on our partners, or allowing work overload to kill our sex drive. Couples meditation combats that by focusing on removing these distractions.
By feeling the floor underneath your thighs and the air moving in and out of your lungs as you breathe slow and deep, you will begin to feel more grounded and at peace. Mediation will start to feel like your happy place. So, just imagine sharing that blissful headspace with your partner. Any negative energy surrounding your relationship is being wiped away each time you meditate together.
Couples Meditation Opens You Up
Couples meditation opens the door to a spiritual connection with your partner that aids in various aspects of a relationship. It helps couples speak openly with each other without fear of rejection or ridicule. Couples learn to create new guidelines of communication to satisfy their unique dynamic. And, by establishing these guidelines, you’ll feel in control of your relationship because of a mutual understanding of what is expected.
This practice also helps with issues of trust. By opening up through meditation, you allow yourself to become more vulnerable with your significant other. This vulnerability also has physical benefits; when your partner makes you feel safe and secure at your most vulnerable, you’ll be able to feel an increase of sexual pleasure. And chances are, this will lead to an increase in libido due to that boosted satisfaction.
Meditation for Lovers Makes You More Aware
Becoming more mindful is a tremendous perk that stems from the practice of couples mediation.
Mentally, it allows couples to understand their partner on a higher level, creating a spiritual understanding of emotions, rather than superficial ones. By creating a feeling of oneness with the universe together, you can translate your partner’s mood, which can potentially help derail arguments in the future.
These emotions also make their way into sexual acts, giving partners a more spiritual understanding of lovemaking. It also aids in the ability to read your partner during intercourse, which paves the way for greater sexual satisfaction.
Physically, by becoming more aware through the regular practice of couples meditation, individuals will feel sensations on a more extreme degree. You’ll be able to fully appreciate your partner’s touch and begin to understand the power of your own touch. The exercise of being aware of each breathe in and out during meditation carries over to sexual experiences and essentially trains you to feel every little sensation you and your partner experience in the present moment.
Couples Meditation Techniques
There are many different meditation techniques that couples use in order to become more connected to one another on an intimate level. Here are some of the most common approaches:
- Mindful Touching: Meditation that concentrates on light touches to and from your partner.
- Sensuality Meditation: A practice of experimenting and being mindful of all five senses.
- Meditation To Channel Sexual Energy Through Your Chakras: Using the chakras to channel sexual energy.
- Couples Meditation on Oneness: A nonsexual meditation that incorporates voice and focuses on emotion.
Tools To Make It A Habit Together
Couples meditation may seem like an overwhelming undertaking in such a busy world, but there are many ways couples can easily begin meditating together on a regular basis in order to take their relationship to a more spiritual level. Some couples may feel comfortable beginning their meditation with just a little personal research, but many need external guidance. The good news is, there are a lot of resources to get started.
Meditation apps are very common nowadays and there is one for everyone. Gaia’s catalog of meditation videos has has a multitude of choices catering to just about any mindfulness-related need you can imagine from respected contemplative masters. If you and your partner spend a week or two with each meditation practice, meditate daily, and commit, you can discover the hidden power laced within ancient practices. Results may come quickly or they may come in time. As long as you make space to sit down and tune in, you are doing it right.
And, If you’re looking for a total life changing experience and can afford some vacation time, a meditation retreat may also be a good choice for you and your partner, as it will immerse you fully into the spiritual lifestyle and help you to make meditation part of your everyday routine.
Sacred Relationships: Beyond Love and Valentine’s Day
Years ago, I taught a class that ended at 9 PM. One night after class, I stopped by a grocery store to buy a couple of items. It was the night before Valentine’s Day and what I saw startled me, but more than that, it made me sad.
Many grocery stores put the greeting card aisle smack dab in the front. Impulse buying is a big part of modern society and very little is as impulsive as buying a greeting card the night before Valentine’s Day. Entering the card aisle isn’t for the meek. An air of tension and fear immediately becomes evident. I always imagine a herd of gazelles, nervously drinking at a waterhole in the middle of lion country. There may not be lions here, but there’s a very real predator, namely, one’s own insecurities regarding love and romance.
Grown men whimper as they desperately search for the perfect card that proves their love, hopefully without offending the recipient. Generations of insidious marketing tactics have convinced most of us that we have neither the time nor the talent, to express ourselves from our hearts, so we pay someone else to do it for us. On more than one occasion, while standing in front of hundreds of homogenized cards, none of them saying what I actually felt, I swore never to stand there again. I came to loathe Valentine’s Day and everything it stood for. I wasn’t alone.
How did a celebration of romantic love and commitment come to mean despair for so many? Certainly, greeting card companies have had a lot to do with this phenomenon, but it really isn’t that simple. Perhaps it has more to do with our insistence at quantifying, institutionalizing, and monetizing something as indefinable, ephemeral, and sacred as love.
The media bullies us into buying diamonds, flowers, new cars, and boxes of chocolates, or risk being labeled as a bad partner. The irony behind all this is that when love is genuine and certain, no tokens are necessary, because hearts communicate to each other in a language as ancient as humanity itself. This is the basis of a Sacred Relationship. Such connections are pure and without conditions implied.
Our ancestors spoke this language fluently and without hesitation. They found no shame in expressing what was within them. Love wasn’t considered a weakness. Rather, it was looked upon as a blessing, a gift bestowed by the Divine as a sacred duty, rite, and gift.
What would the world be without romantic love? It would be inhuman and horribly dull.
Sacred Relationships are the basis of what we think of when true love is expressed. The connection of two souls, united in purpose, is the Alchemical merging of hearts, minds and incarnations. The fiery furnace of passion is the smelter for those who come together to unite as one Sacred Couple, individuals united by the Divine imperative.
Love is a constant, a thread that connects the human experience throughout the ages, like beads of a Mala. It weaves its way through every aspect of our existence, and links us to our ancestors and to those who will follow us on this lovely planet.
