5 Ways Technology Can Actually Help You Spend More Time with Your Family During the Holidays
I’ll be the first to admit that technology can be the worst thing for a family. Texting at the dinner table, scrolling through Instagram when my mom is trying to talk to me, and even worse, settling for Facebook chat with my boyfriend instead of meeting up with him in person. These are ways that technology has distanced us from experiencing raw, human connection.
Although we usually associate technology as being the very thing that takes us away from our families, I am here to play the devil’s advocate and show you how you can best optimize technology to actually increase engagement with your family this holiday season.
- Smartphone Games
Games are one of the best ways to engage with your family. They bring a sense of togetherness, friendly competition and connection. In this day and age, kids and teenagers are now more likely to engage in games on their phone than in person. Here are some online games you can play on your smartphone with your kids, siblings, or even friends from near or far:
- Chess With Friends – perfect for creating healthy competition.
- PirateFleet for Friends – like the online version of Battleship!
- Four in a Row – perfect for kids 8 and under! Like checkers.
- The Game of Life – if you’ve ever played the board game version, it’s the same but online.
- Tic Tac Toe – everyone loves this one!
- Fruit Ninja – multiplayer, but you must play this game with your loved ones in person.
- Long-Distance Chat Apps
Not all of us have the privilege of living close to our loved ones. Many of us have family members that are either off at college, or live in other states or countries. Lucky for us, we now live in the 21st century where we have the ability to stay connected to our families from a distance. If you have relatives such as grandparents or parents who are older than 60 years of age, recommend and teach them how to use the cloud-based applications listed below. Not only will they be amazed with the technology, but they will feel joy to be able to connect with their loved ones; especially during the holidays.
Take advantage of these apps to talk with and see your loved ones over the holidays:
- WhatsApp – this app allows you to message friends and family from other countries without any additional fees.
- Skype – use this app to video call your family and friends from a distance.
- Facetime – only available to iPhone users, but this is the fastest and most convenient way to quickly see your loved one’s face.
- Ustyme – this app allows you to not only video chat your loved ones, but play games with them at the same time!
- Cooking ‘Smartly’
Encourage your kids to put their iPhone or tablet to good use this year
- in the kitchen! There are many cooking apps that you can now download which are more interactive and interesting than an old recipe book. Since the holidays are all about cooking up tasty treats, use these apps to get your kids and loved ones in the kitchen for a family cooking activity.
- Food Network In The Kitchen
- Volunteer Apps
The holidays are not called ‘the season of giving’ for no reason! Take the time this holiday season to volunteer in your local community and to motivate your family to get involved as well. There are many apps that can encourage getting actively involved. Download these apps and see what you and your family can do this holiday season to lend a helping hand.
- Pay It Forward
- Reading Christmas Stories
In my family growing up, it was a tradition to read a story every night in the month of December. You could implement this tradition into your own family, and have an excuse to spend just ten minutes a day together as a family. Since you might not have access to Christmas stories, put your kindle or tablet to good use and take advantage of your online selection! You can find stories on the following apps:
- A Story Before Bed
- Read Me Stories
- A Charlie Brown Christmas
This holiday season remember to use technology to your advantage. Although we associate technology as being something that can often disconnect us, embrace technology this holiday season as a tool to bring your family closer together!
How Does an HSP Cope With All the Suffering in the World?
If you’re not familiar with the term HSP, please see the definition for “Highly Sensitive Person” from Dr. Elaine Aron.
With no simple answer, I’m afraid. I’ve pondered my own answer to this question for several years. The following Meditation of Hope and Love came to me during one of my own meditations a few years ago. I use it often…and lately, that means almost daily!
A Meditation of Hope and Love
Find a meditation time – at least 30 minutes, or longer, if possible. You know the criteria – quiet, uninterrupted time and space, preferably your own special place that may have candles or a special feeling of comfort and security for you.
Sit or lie down in a very comfortable position. (I prefer lying, with something light and soft to cover me.)
- Begin slow, deep breathing, focusing on blowing all your breath out – as if blowing out a candle.
- Breathe in deeply, through your nose, to a count of 8 or 10. Hold for a count of four.
- Breathe out, again as if blowing out a candle, to a count of ten.
You want to create a very deep cleansing breath. Notice: You might begin yawning, or drifting off to sleep. Go with whatever feels best for you. There is no ‘doing it wrong’ here. Just keep practicing until eventually you can complete the whole meditation. Now here comes the harder, yet important part.
Begin to allow your mind to go ahead and focus on all the things you have been concerned or worrying about. Like many of you, I have been close to tears each day as I hear about all the suffering in the world.
Lovingly ask each individual concern to patiently wait in line — assuring them they will all have a chance to be heard. In your relaxed state, begin to see each entity forming a line, waiting patiently. As they come up to be heard, assign them a name like Robin Williams, Gaza/Palenstine conflict, Nigerian girls or maybe for you it might be lost job, finances, or whatever else evolves as an appropriate and loving way to remember and honor your concerns.
As an HSP, these kinds of images tend to burrow deep into my inner world and I can begin to feel burdened, lethargic, and sometimes hopeless. Cognitively, I know there is really nothing I can (concretely) do about these tragedies, yet my yearnings for a better world keep my mind occupied.
Now comes the next step in your meditation.