How Do We Reconnect When Lonely?


By: Gaia Staff  |  February 10, 2014

Is Facebook making us lonely? In yogic terms one of the root causes of suffering is the perception of being alone. We think no one else feels what we feel, therefore no one else understands what we’re experiencing.

When our seventh chakra, the crown chakra, is blocked we feel lonely and disconnected. The work of this chakra is then to bring healing to the ailment of loneliness. For some, loneliness might have the literal meaning of being physically removed from other people. This seems to be a recent trend with the new obsessive emersion in social media. But feeling disconnected can have a deeper meaning and impact on your life, especially if it feels like you are living one never-ending groundhog’s day. Does your life have a feeling of futility?

What’s interesting is that in 1950, less than ten percent of American’s lived alone, but by 2010 nearly twenty-seven percent of households were occupied by only one person. There is a growing epidemic of loneliness. “We found that loneliness somehow penetrated the deepest recesses of the cell to alter the way genes were being expressed.” Loneliness affects not only the brain but also the basic process of DNA transcription. When your mind is lonely, your whole body is lonely. “Internet communication allows only ersatz intimacy. Forming connections with pets or online friends is a noble attempt to satisfy a compelling need, but surrogates can never make up completely for the absence of the real thing.” The real thing being actual people, in the flesh, as Stephen Marche explains.

Yoga and Community

Personally my favorite part of yoga has nothing to do with poses or breathing, but with community. It’s about the coming together of humans in all shapes, sizes, backgrounds, ages and interests, in the sharing of an experience. That’s why I go back every day, both as a student and a teacher. What’s more, it has been scientifically proven that being in a healthy community is good for us. The vibration of positively minded people raises our vibrational frequency.

This shared joy elevates our spirits and is even talked about in Yoga Sutra Chapter 2.33 Pratipaksha Bhavana. Essentially the sutras dictate that when we are imbalanced mentally, physically or emotionally, we are not living our true nature: Joy. Therefore, engaging with others and thinking happy thoughts helps us to create happiness both internally and externally. Positive energy creates and attracts more positive energy.

“Love creates a communion with life. Love expands us, connects us, sweetens us, and ennobles us. Love springs up in tender concern, it blossoms into caring action. It makes beauty out of all we touch. In any moment we can step beyond our small self and embrace each other as beloved parts of the whole.” – Jack Kornfield.

How Do We Reconnect?

First, you have to accept that we are all already continuously connected. All you have to do is open back up to our collective energy. This is referred to by scientists as the Zero Point Field, meaning that all matter is interconnected by one energy web. The easiest way to quiet the static that prevents us from feeling this, is meditation. Meditation creates a non-dualistic understanding of the world. It promotes the science of universal harmony. Meditation is a philosophy of supporting, rather than competing against, one another. It helps take away the feeling of threat and disconnection from the world. It promotes love as the eternal connector.

Dr. Dean Schrock describes meditation and explains why it works: *”Meditation allows you to access the quantum field of energy which is essentially a field of love. And meditation heals by leading you to love.” *

The true meaning of Namaste is: When I am in a place of love and you are in a place of love, we are one love.

Wishing you all the courage to open your hearts to greater community and collaboration. Love yourself, love your day, love your life.


 

Silvia Mordini

Silvia Mordini, Writer, Happiness Coach, Teacher, Healer
Spiritual Vinyasa * Inspired * Playful * Mystical
Enthusiasm to love your life is contagious around Silvia. Her expert passion connects people to their own joyful potential. Silvia lives her happiness in such a big way that you can’t help but leave her classes, workshops, trainings and retreats spiritually uplifted! Born in Ecuador, raised traveling the globe, she is an adventure junkie, writer, and happiness coach. After a car ran over her, she used yoga to recover physically and emotionally, then owned a Chicagoland yoga studio for 12 years.
Silvia has taught for 20 years, with over12,000 hours of experience. She founded the 10 year old internationally recognized RYT200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training Program Alchemy of Yoga and co-founded Alchemy Tours, through which she leads Yoga Retreats and spiritual adventures worldwide. Silvia firmly believes the Alchemy of Yoga sparks the fire of transformation in everyone!
Silvia has devoted her life to inspiring others to be themselves through kick-ass spirituality. She empowers you to believe that the way you do your yoga becomes the way you live your life. Through peaceful movement on the mat, ordinary spiritual practice supports extraordinary happiness off the mat. Her playful, creative alignment-based Vinyasa Flow teaching style reminds you of your joyful birthright to love yourself, love your day, love your life!
Look for her upcoming book “Happiness Prescriptions” and her weekly The Alchemy of Yoga blog on DoYouYoga.com. Find her published articles as a Wellness Expert for yoga sites such as GaiamTV, MindBodyGreen, Yoganonymous, and Daily Cup of Yoga. Silvia lives in Seattle near the water and the mountains. She loves making Aperol Spritz while entertaining friends at home, and often helps others redecorate their homes with Soul. She dreams of one day living on a beach “almost” full-time and simplifying her closet by 50%.
Silvia can be reached at:
Websites: www.alchemytours.com or www.silviamordini.com 
Twitter: @alchemytours or  @inspiredyogagal
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