Dr. Bradley Nelson On How to Break Down Our Heart Walls
After the year of a global pandemic, more people are experiencing levels of depression and anxiety than ever before.
A recent episode of “Open Minds” with Regina Meredith, explores our subconscious response to the past year’s tribulations in a conversation with Dr. Bradley Nelson, author of “The Emotion Code,” and the forthcoming book “The Body Code.” The two discuss Nelson’s work breaking down our “heart walls,” helping us to live with more joy, connection, and vibrational health, while also allowing us to thrive in difficult times.
Overwriting Negative Tendencies in Our Subconscious
The past year’s collective experience opened new insights into our innate need for connection and belonging. “We’re designed to be together,” Dr. Nelson explains. “We’re not designed to be apart.”
Nelson explains that the unfamiliar landscape we’ve been living in has resulted in our bodies shutting down, especially if there is already a tendency to bury intense and overwhelming emotions. He believes more people are now forming what he refers to as “heart walls,” a protective energy field around the heart, the organ Nelson defines as being “the seat of the soul, the source of love and creativity…the seed of the subconscious.”
Composed of mostly nervous tissue, scientists and holistic practitioners alike have viewed the heart as being another brain. Nelson shares that the majority of the messages between the heart and the brain are sent from the heart. With the amount of continuous stress, worry, or grief over lost loved ones, the heart’s response is one of feeling broken or being in extreme danger. In response, the heart erects a “wall” around it to protect our essential self — the heart wall.
Nelson explains that while this stress response is appropriate during times of crisis when the heart moves into a bunker, the heart wall pattern can live on after things have returned to “normal.” These protective layers, after a crisis has passed, can make it difficult for us to live in health or to give and receive love and affection—a basic function that is key to living our full potential.
Nelson’s work to help people break down the heart wall has had significant and positive impacts on suicidally depressed people. He believes that breaking the heart wall down is the most important work that any of us can do and is accessible by simply tuning into our subconscious self and ability to love.
The Healing Path of Love and Forgiveness
According to Dr. Nelson, the ability to love unconditionally, regardless of money, politics, gender, religion, or different belief systems, is what is going to help save our world. By breaking down the heart wall, we can feel deeper and higher vibrations of love in all its iterations, from romantic love to friendship, to life’s passion, and spiritual connection with higher energy; feelings many have never been able to experience before.
What does breaking down the heart wall look like? Nelson refers to a cup when he discusses the process. He states that most of us live with a very full cup on a daily basis, one that is filled with experiences and traumas from our recent and distant past. In other words, our emotional cups are very full.
And in a stressful time, such as a worldwide pandemic and political strife, and our cups begin to overflow. This can lead to what many of us have experienced — an inability to deal with life and an impending, overwhelming feeling. Nelson’s work helps people to learn how to empty their cups to allow new emotional experiences to be processed, or to not be as susceptible to collecting emotional baggage through resilience and love.
For Nelson, the ability to offer and receive love is the key to breaking down the heart wall. “When you tell someone you love them, really from your heart, even if you’re not saying it out loud, your heart sends that energy to them and their heart picks that up and it understands it on a subconscious level.”
This includes learning how to forgive, while the learned tendency when we are hurt, especially by someone we love, is to withhold forgiveness. Nelson says he believes this behavior only harms us. He advises us to let go of the hurt and practice forgiveness in order to have true peace in our lives, including forgiving ourselves.
Idea “Allergies,” Financial Energy Flow, and the Heart
Beyond our emotional walls, many of us have built up walls around our belief systems when it comes to financial wellness and prosperity. Nelson shares the story of a woman who used his work to help heal her “idea allergy” around financial success, which muscle testing revealed was related to her fear that if she were to be successful, her marriage would be ruined. By consciously clearing her abundance blockage, she more than doubled her income within a month, a goal she’d been chasing for many years.
By using what Nelson refers to as the “universal intelligence,” our imbalances can be revealed by simply asking our subconscious mind if there is an underlying reason why that blockage or trapped emotion exists. Identifying the blockage can quickly resolve the imbalance. The subconscious mind is our purest barometer of what is truly happening within us, from nutritional deficiencies, to emotional baggage, to so much more, if we believe what Nelson describes as, “our perfect comprehension.”
The Future of Healing
After a decade of working with many people who Nelson said had “no hope,” he believes that the work of the subconscious represents the future of healing. A former computer programmer, Nelson applied his past background to his new path as a healing practitioner, comparing our subconscious to a massive database that can be accessed through The Body Code and The Emotion Code.
Whichever approach you choose, the important thing, as Nelson points out, is to “trust your little inner voice, that voice that comes from the light and we’ll gradually ascend to higher and higher planes.”
For Nelson, that little voice is our birthright because “everyone has the ability to heal—to heal themselves, to heal their family members, and their loved ones.”
Nelson offers this way of looking at the challenging times we’ve all been living through: “As things seem to get darker, somewhere things are getting lighter…the light and the dark always stay in a state of balance.” He advises us to not worry if we’re “looking too much at the darkness” and invites us to also “look for the light because it’s increasing too.”
Praying With Humility: How To Change Yourself And The World
It’s perfectly appropriate to defend our belongings, lives, and loved ones, and to yearn for specific relationships and life-experiences. It’s also suitable to desire titles, positions, gobs of money, and the highest levels of success. You might even have fantasies of domination or revenge. It’s all part of the play.
While goals and desires can be conjured through intentions and focused effort, prayers tend to require a separate set of conditions and attributes. If all whimsies and hungers were equal to prayers, then prayers for football team wins, stock windfalls, and military massacres would dominate the supernatural circuits, and crowd the fulfillment funnel.
For a prayer to be considered “fair trade,” it’s probably best it meets one or more of these conditions:
- Reflects a personal, life or death situation
- Is born from pure, heartfelt intentions
- Stems from a place of humility
- Reflects a measure of reverence
- Does not require that other living Beings be hurt, punished, or killed
- Results in improved conditions for one or more people, the results of which do not threaten other living Beings
- Enhances an individual’s or group’s health, safety, mental capacity, attitude, emotional state, spiritual wholeness, comfort, relationships, or general well-being, including yours
- Expedites a person’s psychological, emotional, or spiritual evolution, including yours
- Inspires and invites feelings of positivity, kindness, and generosity
- Provokes compassion or empathy from anyone who might hear the prayer
- Immediately increases the vibration of the person praying
If your prayer doesn’t embody any of the above attributes, it might be more of a hope, desire, or goal than a prayer. Authentic prayer does not generally involve the ego. For example: praying for a financial windfall is probably egoistic, but praying to receive money to pay for your Mother’s surgery, might have measurable appeal to the Universe’s vibrational, response-network.
How do we create and improve our realities?
To up-level our selves and lives, we start with a feeling or a sense, then we slowly churn it into an intention. Once it’s embedded in us, we imagine related scenarios, outcomes, and destinations. Within these elusive dreams, we form agendas and implement actions, thereby moving us toward the fulfillment of our desires.
To accelerate our journeys, we might use games, leverage, strategy, or cunning. We might also engage our friends, allies, and demons. These are the systems and rackets that rule our physical lives within our three-dimensional realities.
It’s perfectly moral to have goals, dreams, and fantasies that are self-serving. Even a measure of greed can produce positive feelings and outcomes. It’s also permissible to dance with shadows and invite devils to dinner. What separates goodness from evil is not our thoughts or associations; it’s the upshot of our efforts. If hints of our intentions, and hosts of our actions, produce favorable conditions, we still might be invited to sit at the right hand of the divine.
When we’re in the aggressive pursuit of achievement and position, it’s not necessarily harmful or bad, but it’s probably not prayerful. Prayerfulness requires our vulnerability. If our prayers are muddied with desires for pleasures and trinkets, they can become superfluous, even benign.
What if we wish to shift something unique, deep, and lovely? What if our desires are perfectly pure and egoless? What if we have the heart, soul-intention, and desire-base of a child? What, then?
Strangely, the Universe, born from light, has the heart of a child. This child is not infantile; rather, She is the embodiment of the deepest and most profound truths in all of reality, and throughout all galaxies and realms. Whether you see Her as a God, Avatar, Master, or Guru, or the embodiment of pure electromagnetic energy giving birth to matter and circumstance, She is truth itself.
When we beckon the Divine, we enter into courtship with eternal light. It doesn’t matter if we’ve named him Jesus, Buddha, or Elm Tree, and it doesn’t matter whether we’re rich or poor. What matters most is that we have chosen to bow to a Supreme Being, which is also us. As we embody the purest humility, we see through the eyes of the Divine, and into forever. It’s in this state that prayers are immediately fulfilled.
Once we are in a complete and humble prostration to the eternal Self, we can be anyone or anything. In this position, we can share every tidbit of our pain and let it all out. We can be sad, angry, or delighted. We can be full of love, rage or hate. We can be selfish, and we can beg. Most importantly, as we lay our hearts and burdens at His holy feet, we free ourselves. This is how every soul, regardless of religion, can be immersed in the bosom of eternal light, and be born again.
Genuine prayer is not easy. It comes at a price. To connect with and shift the fabric of reality through prayer, we must first admit that our self-identities and personas are temporary and barely real.
While we might not need to embody our purest selves at the start of our prayers, we need to be open to our unraveling. Without a doubt, to achieve a durable state of prayer, we must acquiesce to the All-That-Is, from the cores of our beings.
The Reality Of It All
When leading and participating in Native American and Pagan rituals, I’ve seen people heal themselves of hatred, depression, and disease. I’ve felt spirits exit bodies, and I’ve seen miraculous transformations in the most broken and horrid people.
Through deeply intentional and action-based prayers, I know that anything is possible. Even if for a moment, if we can strip ourselves of our false identities and desires, and open our hearts to the vibrations of pure light, we can co-create any reality.
To begin, sit in silence, and bow to the eternal master. Call out to your angels, guides, Gods, and helpers in all the realms. Yearn to be opened. Beg for the light to blow you away.