5 Ways to Let Go of Negative Beliefs
Any of the thoughts you think that make you feel low or ‘less than’ are lies. Don’t believe them!
Most of what holds us back from living how we truly want is believing the lies of our unconscious self. These lies can include thoughts like, “I’m not good enough, I don’t know how, I am not smart enough, nobody will like or accept me…” These lies are often planted like seeds early on in life, whether it be from a traumatic experience (life is painful), a bully at school (I’m not worthy), an abusive parent (I’m unlovable), teachers or authority figures (I have no power), and many other ways.
Here’s the thing: If you are feeling low, down on yourself, in the fog, or like there is something wrong with you, then you have accepted a lie as truth. It is up to you to actually go within, tear the lie up by its roots, accept fully where you’re at and choose what you really want to believe about yourself and life. Truth be told, life is ultimately good. People are too. However, these deep-rooted lies we take on cloud our perception and cause us to do less than awesome stuff to ourselves, the earth, each other, and with our lives.
We get a choice in the matter though. We don’t have to believe everything we think. But how can we know what story is playing out if we never take the time to listen? This is where meditation and presence practices come in. We must take 100% responsibility for ourselves and get off autopilot.
If you’re ready to feel empowered and confident, then it’s time to take your power back from the beliefs that have taken power over you. How? Start looking for and finding the goodness within yourself, the goodness within humanity and the goodness within life. It might seem difficult at first because of your clouded perception, but the more good you find, the more your old belief systems about life and yourself will begin to fall away.
5 Ways to Let Go of Negative Beliefs and Feel Lighter Now
Gratitude: Giving thanks for every little thing is a powerful way to lift the veil of despair and open up to how abundantly blessed you truly are. It might take some searching at first, but once you find a few things to be grateful for the momentum will build. Count the Blessings: Say to yourself everyday, “I am committed to experiencing the goodness of life” and then as you go about your day, take note of every kind act and every little miracle. Write them down. What you focus on is magnified, so by focusing on the goodness of life, you will begin to witness just how beautiful life really is. Affirmations: Ultimately, it’s up to you to choose what you want to believe about yourself. If you have felt unlovable up until now and you want to know what it feels like to be 100% loveable (which you are) then it is up to you to start affirming that new state for yourself. Looking in the mirror at yourself for five minutes everyday and stating, “I am loveable, I accept myself” is a powerful exercise that I’ve done for years! New Habits: So because you’ve been believing some lies about yourself, chances are you have created some unhealthy habits to match the frequency of lies you’ve been accepting. Now that you’re starting to get clear on the state of being you’re choosing to affirm for yourself and your life, begin to add awesome new habits and practices to your life. It can be simple little changes like ten minutes of silence or meditation, drinking an extra two glasses of water per day, going for a walk around the block, reading something inspiring instead of watching TV or basically any of the other passions you have that you’ve been pushing away. Release the Voice of Pain: It’s okay to feel grief, sadness, anger or anything else like that. It’s okay to be pissed at the injustice of your past. Something that has helped me heal all the unheard voices of my inner child is to write in my journal from my voice of pain. Writing letters to the people who have caused you harm or to yourself for causing you harm is a great practice. You can also write to yourself and affirm your beauty, your greatness and the love that you are. Little love notes to yourself everyday will go a long way. Journaling is a powerful practice. Any art that allows that voice of pain to be acknowledged and transmuted will bring so much lightness to your life.
It’s all the little things we do that add up to the big things in life. Take time to be with yourself every day because truly your inner power comes from being present, connected and grounded within.
About the Author
What is an Empath? An Absorbent, Intuitive, Emotional Warrior
As an open-hearted and whimsical little boy, I wish this question had dawned on me sooner, “What is an Empath?” Given all the experiences that sensitive children tend to endure, I wish someone had taught me about my nature during childhood, instead of plopping it into my lap when I was a meandering adult. My boyhood battles were hard fought and rarely won. The lessons throughout the years seemed to point to one thing: I had no idea I was an Empath.
Are You An Empath?
I remember the day someone asked me that question. I was 30 years old, sitting on a beach in California, holding a friend’s hand. I felt so badly for her broken heart that I cried with her. When she asked me that very potent question, my tears turned inward, where I immediately found a beautiful and profound clarity. At that moment, I knew I was an Empath. I was free.
In the years to come, I could not only feel the feelings of others; I could see the possible trajectories in their lives. On several occasions, I took on my client’s physical attributes, including the temporary appearance of track marks on my arms when doing a session for a former heroin addict.
Yes, being an Empath can be intense.
