The Four Tendencies for Habits


Warning! Habits can be happiness forming.

Are you on a quest to become more happy? View our film Happiness Is and keep reading below to find out how you can become a better version of yourself.

Are you looking to change parts of yourself for the better? For example, will you be participating in Gaiam TV’s Conscious Cleanse: 14-Day Clean Eating and Yoga Challenge? In order to understand your relationships with habits (like nutrition and exercise), you must first know what type of habit tendency you lean toward. Author Gretchen Rubin developed a framework for habits called The Four Tendencies. Take her quiz to learn how you respond to habits.

The Four Tendencies explain how you deal with inner and outer expectations. Which one are you?

  1. Upholder

Upholders readily respond to inner and outer expectations. Their response is, “I do what others expect of me—and what I expect of myself.”

  1. Questioner

Questioners challenge all expectations and will do something if it makes sense to them. Their response is, “I do what I think is best according to my judgment.”

  1. Obliger

Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle with inner expectations. Their response is, “I don’t like to let others down, but I often let myself down.”

  1. Rebel

Rebels resist all expectations. Their response? “I want to do what I want, in my own way. If you tell me to do something, I’m less likely to do it.”

Fun fact: Obligers and Rebels are usually married or partnered to each other.

Now that you know what your habit tendency is, learn how to break bad habits for good.

Create Solid Foundational Habits

To change your habits, begin with those that help you create a solid foundation for self control. These will help set you up for success to form other good habits. Foundational habits include:

  • Sleep
  • Exercise
  • Nutrition
  • Decluttering

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Maria Thomas

Maria Thomas owns the blog My Life as a Puddle and is a passionate writer, editor, and hyperhidrosis survivor. She’s lived with hyperhidrosis all of her life and offers a unique perspective on a condition that can be mentally, socially, and professionally debilitating. Yet she shines on, knowing there is a deeper purpose to her life that involves being exactly who she is. Through her blog she is creating hyperhidrosis hope and awareness one drop at a time, living her truth, and making others feel like they are not alone. Her story is your story. Connect with Maria at My Life as a Puddle and on Facebook and Twitter.


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