How to Explore Other Cultures

How to Explore Other Cultures

Culture is an interesting word. It has many meanings and everybody has a unique way of defining it. Good yogurt has culture. Our throats can be cultured. Some people are said to be cultured, while others are said to have no culture at all. There are subcultures within cultures and when I was a young man, we had a counterculture, not to mention a Culture Club in the 80s.

I consider culture to be a subset of society. The word society leads us to an ambiguous realm, as there can be secret societies, social societies, gentlemen’s societies, lady’s societies, but as much as I’d love to dwell upon societies at length, I believe I’ll move on. I’ll stay long enough to propose that a society is like a huge umbrella over all of us. Every society has its own culture. Cultures operate within societies, like smaller umbrellas. They’re something we’re all under the influence of, in one form or another. It’s the cultures within cultures that influence us more than anything. Certainly, the over-culture is above and influences everyone within it.

Yet, there are thousands of subcultures underneath the over-culture and each one has a unique set of ideals, values and ways of dealing with the world.

Know Where You Come From

One of the greatest mistakes that any of us can make is to not pay attention to the culture that we’re influenced by, and then make a specific choice as to whether or not to stay in, or leave that culture.

Cultural diversity is here to stay and those who can’t, or won’t, tolerate its presence are going to be left behind. There are cities in the world with neighborhoods that reflect massive cultural diversity. Each of these neighborhoods has a culture all its own, often influenced by other cultures encountered along the way. All show the effects of the larger cultural umbrellas and the main influence of society.

Each family is ultimately connected culturally to the city in which it lives. The neighborhood culture is next and then the individual makeup of each family, dependent upon their education and political beliefs.

Some might say that it starts with the familial culture, but I’ve met people with similar ethnic cultures from different cities, and although they share traits, they also reflect specific differences from their environments. Sometimes cultural exchanges can bring turmoil and civil unrest, but for the most part, it leads to a melding of cultural ideals and strengthens everyone.

I was lucky to have a multicultural childhood. I grew up in the United States, watching Leave It to Beaver and other shows of the time. The cultural impact of Captain Kangaroo, or Howdy Doody, was specifically designed to influence the minds of youth to conform to a specific cultural ideal. The Egyptian culture of my parents affected me. We ate Egyptian food, listened to Egyptian music (I much preferred The Beach Boys), had Egyptian acquaintances, and I often got chewed out in Arabic. In turn, my parents were greatly influenced by American culture, but not as much as I. My father was an academic, so I was exposed to university culture and all that it entailed. On top of that, we lived in an agrarian town, surrounded by cowboys, ranchers and farmers; a completely different culture than if I’d lived in an urban setting. It’s no wonder I’m so strange.

Whether we know it or not, each one of us is influenced by the cultural impact of our family, our friends, our antagonists, our teachers, the towns we live in, the states those towns are in, and so on.

When 1967 erupted on the world, I discovered the first culture that made complete sense to me. Culturally, I became a Hippie. I was too young to officially join the movement, but the culture was deeply ingrained within me and it led me on many interesting paths, while allowing me to investigate my obsession with metaphysics and spirituality. Hippie culture embraced diversity and spiritual growth, at least in theory. It was such an amalgam of different people from all over the world that it was bound to become confused and diluted, but it was indelible to some. There is no doubt in my mind that without that specific influence, our culture today would be quite different.

Know Thyself

At the entrance to the ancient Oracle of Delphi, a motto advised all seekers of truth to, “Know Thyself.” It’s an excellent concept, but how can we possibly get to know ourselves if we don’t know what has influenced us throughout the course of our lives and what is currently guiding our thoughts, words, and actions? If we become culturally conscious and make an attempt to understand how we are being influenced and by whom, we can know ourselves better and find a path to happiness and personal growth without having to fight the unseen forces that may have been influencing us for years.

Think of the differences between the cultures of Facebook and Twitter. Most young teens wouldn’t be caught on either. I don’t claim to know anything about social media, but it doesn’t take much to see that although different platforms have certain things in common, each one is culturally diverse and seems to have a different demographic. Where do you fit in? Can you afford not to know what culture is doing to you?

Here are some ideas for becoming culturally more aware and deciding under which umbrella you wish to stand.

Investigate Other Cultures

Did you know that the nation of Bhutan has a Minister Of Happiness? Bhutan considers happiness to be amongst the most vital blessings of life and considers the personal bliss and joy of every citizen to be of the utmost importance and the government’s duty to help to ensure it. It can’t hurt to look into their culture to see what they believe, why they believe it and do they pull it off? If you find that there is merit within their cultural ideals, who’s to say that you can’t emulate or adopt some of their principles? You don’t have to move to Bhutan in order to connect to the cultural ideal of happiness as a right and the state’s duty to provide it. All you have to do is investigate it, contemplate and then implement the strongest points for yourself. It’s not only doable, but it seems counterproductive not to give it a try. You certainly have nothing to lose.

While you’re at it, look into the cultural thoughts of certain subcultures that exist within our society. This doesn’t mean you have to join a secret society or two, as almost anything you want to find out about a group is available on the mighty Internet. Try not to buy into conspiracy theories, as they often hide the truth behind fear. Once again, this isn’t about joining any particular group. The idea is to seek out beliefs in subcultures in order to see if there are any good ideas you’d like to incorporate, or horrible ideas that need to be avoided.

Invest in Self-Evaluation

Trying to discover who we are must include an honest and unfettered investigation into exactly what we believe and why we do so. This unflinching journey into the self can be terrifying, disappointing and embarrassing, but can also be exhilarating, reaffirming, surprisingly refreshing and joyous. The key is to search for the truth and not to be daunted by what is revealed. Discovering that a negative, obsolete cultural ideal is still a part of your psyche, can lead to escaping a stifling way of thinking.

Investigate the Cultural Impacts Of Holy And Religious Doctrines

Religion is often a source of great divisiveness in our world. Much of this disagreement comes from factional divisions. These influences separate people who should be united, but aren’t. By looking into a religion itself, and not the rhetoric attached to it, you may find aspects of a belief system that can be incorporated into your world, without having to actually join or believe in any specific point of view. You are intelligent and intuitive. Allow your intellect and intuition to guide you into what works and what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid of books and philosophies. At the same time, don’t be afraid to reject and walk away from ideas. You may be surprised to find out that specific doctrines have been carefully woven into your psyche and that unraveling that tapestry of cultural indoctrination may not be as easy as you might think, but it may be the best thing for you to do.

The key is to be brave and stay connected to your truth.

Decide Whom You Want to Be and What You Want to Culturally Represent

Decide on an ideal for yourself. This may seem a wee bit lofty, but I can assure you that knowing what you’d like to be is the only way that you can actually begin progressing toward becoming that person. Ask yourself serious questions. Do you feel that you reflect a civil society? Do you try to think good thoughts about others, even when the culture around you says otherwise? Are you prone to following fads, or do you tend to think for yourself, even though the fads can be tempting? Are you kind to people? Are you kind to yourself? Even though we live in a culture that seems dominated by greedy business models, questioning others intelligence, blatant hucksterism and rampant populism, are you able to make your own way without having to succumb to overriding attitudes that surround you? Are you willing to investigate and accept cultural influences from diverse and sometimes contradictory sources to see whether or not they fit you?

Embracing the concept of a personal culture, one that is designed specifically for you, but can also reside within a larger paradigm, is the essence of freedom and happiness. You don’t have to live in Paris to embrace French culture, you can do so in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. T

The key is to investigate with an open mind and heart and never forget that your life belongs to you.

You have the ability to do everything in your power to make this incarnation as wonderful and joyous as is humanly possible. Embrace your culture, whatever it may be, and live a happy life, whatever culture you may find yourself in.

Until next time, I wish you all peace and love.



Shamanic Soul Retrieval: How to Recover Parts of Our Soul?

Shamanic Soul Retrieval: How to Recover Parts of Our Soul?

“Every book…has a soul. The soul of the person who wrote it and of those who read it and lived and dreamed with it. Every time a book changes hands, every time someone runs his eyes down its pages, its spirit grows and strengthens.” ~ Carlos Ruis Zafon

It has been said, “The best things in life are free.” We can all agree it’s nice to be surprised with a gift; but not just any gift. The gift that arrives in your life precisely when you are ready to receive it. The gift is clearly a message to you and for you.

In this case, the gift is Soul Retrieval: Mending the Fragmented Self by Sandra Ingerman.

With graceful delivery of rarely discussed phenomena, Soul Retrieval: Mending the Fragmented Self combines shamanism and psychology to explain the effects of trauma that cause parts of the soul to leave the body and the process by which the part(s) can be retrieved.

Follow along as renowned psychotherapist, shamanic teacher, and author Sandra Ingerman delves into soul loss and retrieval.

What is Soul Loss?

Sandra Ingerman’s Abstract on Shamanism states that “there are many common symptoms of soul loss. Some of the more common ones would be dissociation, where a person does not feel fully in his or her body and alive and fully engaged in life. Other symptoms include chronic depression, suicidal tendencies, post-traumatic stress syndrome, immune deficiency problems, and grief that just does not heal. Addictions are also a sign of soul loss.”

For those who have lost parts of themselves, knowingly or unknowingly, “tremendous amounts of psychic energy” are unconsciously spent looking for the lost parts.

What Causes Soul Loss?

According to Ingerman, “The basic premise is whenever we experience trauma, a part of our vital essence separates from us in order to survive the experience by escaping the full impact of the pain.”

This quiet occurrence, known as soul loss, takes the form of a perpetual feeling and experience of incompleteness and disconnection.

Ingerman says, “Anytime someone says, ‘I have never been the same’ since a certain traumatic event, and they don’t mean this in a good way, soul loss has probably occurred.”

Sandra Ingerman on Lost Soul Parts

Sandra Ingerman holds a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, professional mental health counselor, the author of more than ten books, and a board-certified expert on traumatic stress who was awarded the 2007 Peace Award from the Global Foundation for Integrative Medicine.

As a leading authority on soul loss and retrieval, Ingerman’s highly regarded career spans 35 years of conducting workshops and soul retrievals around the world.

For Ingerman, the leading practitioner of soul retrieval whose own spiritual journey to recapture her soul led her on various spiritual paths. The answer she found was in the ancient tradition of shamanism, which views soul loss as an important cause of illness and death.

The word shaman, originating from the Tungus Tribe of Siberia, means “one who sees in the dark.”

Soul Loss in Society

According to Ingerman, “A reflection of how much soul loss people are dealing with” is evident when “so many governments and businesses are valuing money over life.”

However, Western medicine has no framework for this kind of diagnosis because it only deals with imbalance when it appears on a physical and mental level.

Western medicine “treats chronic pain with pain medication, insomnia with sleeping pills, weight issues with diet and exercise, and most damagingly, may label soul loss as mental illness, and cover up the symptoms with psychiatric medications that may make things worse by slapping a Band-Aid on a wound that’s not healing underneath the bandage.”

This “covering up” can lead to the deep unhappiness that many have come to consider as “simply ordinary.” Eventually, this prolonged dissociation produces a nameless void that shows itself through “a loss of meaning, direction, vitality, mission, purpose, identity, and genuine connection.”

This spiritual void, which is always present and always trying to get your attention, operates as the incessant yearning of your soul wanting to incorporate all of its highest qualities, all of God’s essence, all of you.

Simply put, the soul is always trying to reconnect with that from which it came.

Ingerman imparts, “If you are truly in your body (your whole soul present), you cannot place money over life. Planetary soul loss causes so much of the behavior we are currently seeing, behavior that no longer honors the beauty and importance of life.”

Signs of Soul Loss

The following checklist can help identify symptoms of soul loss:

  1. You have a difficult time staying “present” in your body
  2. You feel numb, apathetic, or deadened
  3. You suffer from chronic depression
  4. You have problems with your immune system and have trouble resisting illness
  5. You were chronically ill as a child
  6. Memory gaps of your life after age five where you sense that you may have blacked out significant traumatic experiences
  7. Struggle with addictions, for example, to alcohol, drugs, food, sex or gambling
  8. Find yourself looking to external things to fill up an internal void or emptiness
  9. Have difficulty moving on with your life after a divorce or the death of a loved one
  10. You suffer from multiple personality syndrome

Having read this book with no prior knowledge of soul loss or retrieval, I found the concepts quite sobering.

Within situations of physical and emotional abuse, negation, and trauma, many experiences in life can be too difficult to bear. Soul loss is an understandable response to spiritual woundedness and deep fragmentation of one’s soul essence that would lead to an internal dissociation from natural balance.

What is Soul Retrieval?

During the soul retrieval process, the shaman moves into an altered state of consciousness to travel to realities outside of normal perception (non-ordinary reality), also known as hidden spirit worlds, to retrieve the lost part of the soul.

In some cases, there is reluctance of the soul to return, or the soul may not even know a separation has occurred. While in most cases, the soul does want to return. It is, however, important to note when the “soul returns, it comes back with all the pain it experienced when leaving.”

Once the lost soul is located, the shaman will “acknowledge the former pain and gently negotiate the soul’s return to the body.” The shaman then brings the soul back to normal reality and (literally) blows the missing soul part back into the body through the head or heart.

If a person is trained in shamanic journeying, they can ask their spirit guides to perform a soul retrieval on their behalf. Or anyone can ask for a healing dream where one sets the intention to request a soul retrieval to be performed during the dream state.

If these two processes do not create change or healing, then working with a trained shamanic practitioner is recommended.

Although Ingerman is very clear that you should not try to practice soul retrieval based solely on the reading of this book, in an exclusive interview, Ingerman and I discuss what can be done when someone suspects soul loss has occurred.

Shamanic Healing Practice Interview

BJB: What can someone do if they suspect soul loss has occurred but do not have immediate access for soul retrieval with a Shaman?

SI: If a person has soul loss, they can work with a shamanic practitioner long distance. Most shamanic practitioners perform long-distance healings these days.

I have been training Soul Retrieval practitioners since the late 1980’s. I have a website where I have an international list of shamanic practitioners who have sent me case studies. Of course, no shamanic practitioner can ever promise a cure, but I know their work, and I trust them.

BJB: Is there a healing exercise the person can do to begin to address and/or heal the root cause of the soul loss?

SI: Nature is our greatest healer. A person who feels they have lost their soul can walk or lie down on the ground and reflect on what is the root cause of their soul loss.

You can also do automatic writing. This includes listening to spiritual music while writing the following question on a piece of paper: “What is the root cause of my soul loss?”

You then close your eyes and allow your hand to write. This is a powerful way to let your soul and intuition give you the truth of the cause of your soul loss and other information that is important for you to know.

BJB: What has been the most surprising or unexpected part of your work as a Shaman?

SI: All of my Shamanic work is a surprise.

The helping spirits never give expected responses to the questions I ask them. This is true also when I perform the healing journey for a client. I am always given information I did not expect or would rationally think of on my own.

Also, in my 35 years of working with clients, I continue to be surprised by the miraculous effects of the work.

The Most Important Factor in Personal Healing

Soul retrieval is not a quick fix. Sandra Ingerman states, “If the person has done a lot of personal work, the soul retrieval might be the end of the work. If not, the soul retrieval would be the beginning of the work.”

No matter where you may find yourself, at the beginning or near the end of working through an issue, the most important factor in all healing work is you.

You have to be willing to do the work that is necessary to participate in your own healing. You will have to be willing to look at yourself with new eyes, from a new shamanic perspective, and as an embodiment of completion and wholeness while knowing that willingness is the impetus for great change, which always begins with the heart.

For more information on Sandra Ingerman’s work, log onto SandraIngerman.com.

You can also learn more by watching this interview on Gaia.com with Jill Kuykendall on soul retrieval.

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