Yoga for Better Sex: Bring Your Practice into the Bedroom
Do you love sex (and yoga)? Explore yoga poses for better sex and tips on how to improve one of the most important aspects of your well-being, your love life.
It’s natural to let inhibitions like fear, self-criticism and doubt take away the pleasure of one of the most satisfying things you can do with your loved one.
These yoga poses for better sex will help you improve your flexibility, ability to breathe fully, and strength, as well as teach you to be more in tune with your partner. To open your heart is to open your body and with these movements, you will learn what it is like to both give yourself to another and be open to receiving.
Tone and Open Your Pelvic Floor
In a 48-minute video on how to gain sovereignty over your sexuality taught by instructor Ashleigh Sergeant that focuses on bringing energy into the pelvic-floor region through the act of opening and toning. In these yoga poses for better sex, the focus is awareness, particularly on the energetic awareness of the pelvic floor.
“Other forms of movement and exercise don’t necessarily target areas of the pelvis,” says yoga teacher and founder of Hamna Shida Yoga in Venice, California, Molly Mitchell-Hardt. “With sex, you’re going to want blood flow in the pelvic region and the whole body. Even Warrior One helps bring blood flow to the pelvis.”
Now Begins Your Yogasmic Journey
In a sexy 22-minute video, embark on a yogasmic journey taught by instructor Hemalayaa Behl. This practice focuses on opening up your inner channels with liberating movement and sound. It teaches you as a practitioner to let go of those inhibitions that you’re holding onto and gives you a chance to scream like a monkey. You might want to get your wild animal on alone for this video.
“In yoga, we sensitize ourselves to ourselves. We often try to desensitize ourselves in life, but in yoga, we are aware of breath, movement and sensation.”
Finding Balance and Creativity in Your Sacral Chakra
Learn how to create freedom in this relaxing 73-minute video taught by instructor Faith Hunter that focuses on the power of the second chakra, known most commonly as the Sacral Chakra. This creative energy center, governed by the element of water and located in the pelvis, near the sacrum, promotes our ability to enjoy life in physical ways.
“The second chakra is our creative center. It creates life, birth ideas and brings dreams to reality. It is the passageway into the ovaries and testicles. Your whole reproductive center is attached to the second chakra.”
Pranayama Breathing and the Holistic Benefits of Yoga
Explore tantric yoga in this gentle 51-minute video taught by instructor Pedro Franco that focuses on the breath and helps to activate the chakra system and kundalini energies within the body. You’re going to want to find a quiet space for this video so that you can focus on the sound of your breath in silence.
“Sit cross-legged in a comfortable seated position and create circles with your chest. This evokes sensuality but also awakens the root chakra. You have to wake up the root to wake up everything else.”
Yoga for Improving Your Sexual Health
Learn how to improve your sexual health in this fun 44-minute video taught by instructor Jesse Enright that focuses on movement, mobility and strength. Through a series of energetic practices, you will learn muscular control, body intelligence and how to channel sexual energy.
Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor Through Kundalini
Awaken your sexual side in this 31-minute Kundalini-inspired video taught by instructor Lindsey Lewis that focuses on the second chakra. You will learn how to tap into the power and awareness of Kundalini energy, which is often associated with the divine energy of Tantra, the idea of being “woven together” with God through both the physical and spiritual.
“Yoga is an opportunity to fall in love with yourself, not in a narcissistic way, but in a truly genuine way. It is an opportunity to enjoy yourself. As an extension of that, you can only truly enjoy the company of someone else in a fully uninhibited way.”
Strengthen Your Lower Core
Find your roots and dig deep in this foundational 26-minute video taught by instructor Cameron Gilley that focuses on strengthening and opening the Root Chakra. The Root Chakra is the first energy center of the body and is affiliated with the adrenal glands. In this video, you will complete a hatha flow and spend a lot of time focusing on the basics, working on finding balance and creating stability by charging up the power center of your body.
Get Your Om On and Optimize Your Sexual Pleasure
Enliven your sex life with this essential 46-minute video taught by instructor Samantha S. Brown, where you will bring attention to your heart’s center. Learning how to breathe through your pelvis and open your back, you will see how connection to nature and others comes from the inside out. Opening your lower back will offer you a greater capacity for pleasure.
“Fluid, liquid movements of the spine provoke sensuality.”
Become More Tuned In to Your Sexual Experience
Tune into your sexual experience with synchronicity in this subtle 23-minute video taught by instructor Ashley Turner, opening your body to range of motion and allowing you to become more tuned in to your sexual experience. You will be guided to understand the difference between having sex and making love. Through self-love and awareness, learn how to be a more generous lover and become more open to receiving love.
Feel Good in Your Own Body
Find the constant orgasm in this empowering 73-minute video taught by instructor Meghan Currie. In this sultry sequence, you will learn the power of feeling good in your own body and how being in the moment allows you to better connect with another. Be prepared to bend, tone, sweat and build stamina for a rockin’ sex life.
“Sex can feel very primal and animalistic, but we are also able to make love and unite in a deeper way.”
Beginner Level Partner Yoga
Explore partner yoga in this awakening 26-minute video taught by instructor Pedro Franco. You will learn how to connect with another through this beginner partner sequence. Get a greater sense of your own alignment through the movements of your partner. Play with a friend or loved one in this fun, introductory video.
In the name of love and better sex, build connection and intimacy with the yoga!
A mala, meaning garland in Sanskrit, evokes a circular, continuous form. In practice, a mala is the devoted offering of repeated cycles (typically in divisors of 108) of mantra Japa or yoga asana. Within a mala, there is always a sense of beginning, continuing, and completion. Both inside each individual cycle and in the practice as a whole. This three-form (trimurti) quality allows us to embody, in practice, the rhythmic cycles ever-present in the natural universe: creation (srishti), sustaining (sthiti) and destruction (samhara).
During a yoga mala, the types of offerings include mantra japa, pranam and yoga.
Offering: Mantra Japa
Chanting mantra, either internally or aloud, has a vibrational impact on the body and mind. A mantra, meaning a tool or skill of thought, imbues the practice of yoga with a primordial rhythm and when offered continuously (japa), mantras are designed to liberate consciousness.
“Mantras are the sounds that should accompany our yoga postures. Like strands of DNA, these sounds offer yoga practitioners a direct link to the source and substance of the yoga tradition. Just as you cannot truly grasp science without knowing its language—mathematics— it is impossible to touch upon the depth of yoga without knowledge of mantras.” ::Russill Paul, The Yoga of Sound
When preparing to practice mantra Japa, select a mantra that resonates with what you want to cultivate through your offering. Included below are several mantras that serve different purposes in practice. They are short, potent and readily learned through repetition. While an English mantra may be just as powerful, the Sanksrit mantras are intelligently crafted to awaken your whole being with vibration, not just the mind.
|oṁ namaḥ shivāya||I bow to the inner Self who is one with the source of all creation||union|
|oṁ hrim hamsa soham svaha||I bow to the supreme light, to emerge from darkness||purification|
|oṁ maṇi padme hūṃ||May the jewel in the lotus shine forth the light and love of compassion to unite all as one.||compassion|
|oṃ guṃ gaṇapataye namaha||I bow to Ganapati the benevolent remover of obstacles.||overcoming obstacles|
|lokāh samastāh sukhino bhavantu||May all beings everywhere be happy and free.||metta, lovingkindness|
For a gentle, yet transformative practice, you may choose to offer pranams (prostrations) in lieu of the traditional namaskaras (salutations) outlined below. The practice of prostration or kneeling is common to many spiritual traditions and the physical gesture of bowing is understood universally as conveying respect, honor, and reverence.
A pranam is the simple surrender of the whole body to the earth in a prone position.
Begin standing, then lower the hands to the ground and slowly walk them away from the feet to place the belly on the floor. Rest the forehead on the hands like a pillow and stay here for at least one cycle of breath. To complete the pranam, in your own way, press the body up off the floor and return to standing. Use the breath to initiate each movement and move slowly. With relatively uncomplicated form, a mala of pranams may be completed with the eyes closed to facilitate deeper focus and meditation.
A yoga mala can be completed using any combination of practices that totals 108, or for a shortened practice, 27, 54, etc. My favorite way to practice a yoga mala is by completing 12 total cycles, each consisting of 7 surya namaskar A and 2 surya namaskar B, 12 x 9 = 108. Typically, postures for traditional sequences.
In this style of yoga mala, there are potentially more than 200 forward bends and more than 150 “push-ups”; For even the most seasoned yoga practitioner, this is a lot to ask of the body. Listed below are common modifications to the traditional form to encourage a sustainable practice that leaves you feeling nourished, not depleted. You may decide to modify every round or alternate between full and modified expressions as is appropriate.
- Bend the elbows for any postures where the arms are extended overhead. This is a great option for anyone with shoulder sensitivity or as the arms begin to fatigue. This can also alleviate dizziness and is recommended for anyone with hypertension
- Skip the basic vinyasa (chaturanga and upward facing dog) and step straight back to downward facing dog from forward bending. Enjoy a few extra moments to catch your breath in downward dog or rest in child’s pose instead
- Substitute cobra or locust pose for upward dog. These postures extend the spine in the same way with little to no weight bearing on the hands
- Substitute forearm plank and dolphin for plank and downward dog for sensitive wrists. When taking this modification, it is recommended to transition slowly from hands to forearms with the knees lowered
- Substitute puppy pose or child’s pose for downward dog, placing less weight on the hands
- Bend the knees in forward bends. This is recommended for all practitioners, even those with an advanced forward bending practice who can very easily touch the ground with straight legs. A gentle bend in the knees will help recruit the larger muscles of the legs for support, especially when the body becomes fatigued, instead of defaulting to the knees and lower back. Similarly, maintain a gentle bend in the knees as you transition from forward bending to standing
- Substitute high or low lunge for warrior one. Lowering the back heel in this split-leg posture requires significant mobility in the hips and legs, enjoy these lunge modifications for several rounds in the beginning until the body is sufficiently warm or as alternatives to warrior one when the legs become tired
- With a fluid and repetitive rhythm, it can be easy to hurry from one pose to the next. A mala can be practiced with one breath per movement, but enjoy additional breaths as needed and do not rush through the process. It is far better to complete 54 rounds safely and with self-compassion than to suffer through 108 for the sake of the numerical metric
Your Practice is Personal
The practice of a yoga mala can be deeply cleansing and invigorating, especially when completed during a seasonal shift such as a solstice or equinox. This practice is also welcomed during any time of personal transition or universal celebration. The new year, for instance, is a potent time of creation as we chart a path for the year to come. Through the dedication of a yoga mala, we can dissolve what has passed and galvanize our intentions for the year ahead.
A Moving Meditation
A yoga mala is the ultimate moving meditation with a repetitive, steady rhythm that helps transcend the purely physical form and move us closer to the unified Self. One body, one mind, one breath. Each forward bend serves as a pranam to the source and each vibrant backbend is an emergence of radiant light. The body is the mala, the breath is the mantra.
My dear friend and yoga teacher once told me that praying is when you ask the big questions whereas meditation is when you listen for the big answers. A yoga mala offers us practice for sweating our prayers in movement so that we might listen for what arises in meditation.
What is the Significance of 108?
The number 108 has a range of significance across many different cultures and disciplines. For example, this number informs the architecture of sacred texts that are central to yoga and eastern philosophy. As a devoted scholar of yoga and tantra, my teacher Shiva Rea explains in Tending the Heart Fire, “there are 108 chapters of the Rig Veda, 108 Upanishads, and 108 primary Tantras.” And these texts are written in Sanskrit, a language comprising 54 letters, each with a masculine (Shiva) and feminine (Shakti) form, 54 x 2 = 108. Additionally, listed below are just a few of the many relationships that carry this number.
- In in the field of Ayurveda, there are 108 sacred places, or marmas, in the body, identifying intersections of matter and consciousness. When manipulated, these points can awaken and align the vital energy
- Members of the Vedic tradition see this number as denoting the wholeness of the universe: one represents the solar masculine, zero represents the lunar feminine and eight represents the infinite nature of all things
- In the classic japa mala, used in Buddhism and Hinduism, there are 108 beads used for prayer and mantra
- Mathematicians favor the number 108 for its countless patterns and potential divisions. For example, it is divisible by the sum of its parts and most of its proper divisors, making it a semiperfect number
- Through the lens of astronomy, the diameter of the sun is approximately 108 times that of earth and the distance from our planet to its solar star is, on average, 108 times the diameter of the sun. A similar parallel relationship also exists between the earth and the moon
The unequivocal nature of numbers, unlike language, is absolute. However, it is the way in which we relate to and extract meaning from numbers that brings them to life. Be it randomized coincidence or divine order, there is something undeniably special about one hundred and eight.
How to Keep Count
A mala uses repetition to break free from the fluctuations of the mind, so it may seem counterintuitive to introduce any method of keeping count, which can be a predominantly mental exercise. When offering japa mantra, this conundrum is easily solved using of a string of beads or stones. With the completion of each cycle mantra, the beads are delicately transferred through the fingers of the right hand, beginning and ending with the large bindu, or guru bead, for a total of 108 rounds. In a yoga practice, this task compels a little more creativity, but it need not be complex. You might use small pieces of paper, beans or seeds, or even the chakras of the body to count internally.
To practice a mala with the traditional sequences outlined above, you will simply need three different styles of counters and four small containers or piles. When I offer personal practice, I use three different colored beads and four small clay cups. The first cup has seven clear beads, each representing one surya namaskar A and two wooden beads, each representing one surya namaskar B. The second and fourth cups are empty and the third cup has 12 rudraksha beads, each representing a complete round.
When completing a single round, the seven clear beads and two wooden beads are transferred from the first cup to the second cup at the end of each surya namaskar A and B respectively. When the transfer is complete, a single rudraksha bead is transferred from the third cup to the fourth cup. In the next round, seven clear and two wooden beads are returned from the second cup to the first cup, and another rudraksha bead is transferred from the third to the fourth cup. The clear and wooden beads are continuously transferred between the first and second cups until all rudraksha beads are in the fourth cup. It may seem complicated, but give it a shot, it’s easier than you think.
Remember, the completed number of mantras or asanas is not what matters most. You may choose to let go of the numbers altogether and simply practice until your heart feels complete.